lavenderashes
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This is going to be super verbose. You may skim through this TL;DR wall of text if you'd like. I won't feel offended at all.
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I can't seem to understand why it's so difficult for me to make just one, good solid friend. Trying to make friends in high school was fickle for me (and maybe that's just normal for high schoolers in general) but in College---why is it so hard? (and before anyone asks, yes. I'm in College.)
Real Life:
For a while, I thought it was because of my interests/hobbies. I love video games and I'm a Cosplayer. It's hard for me to talk about anything else that's not related to these subjects and although I try, it just seems fake and forced and it's difficult. Hell, I don't even mention video games to them because they're going to think it's weird and are going to be put off by me. (And trust me, I've told this to one person in my class and she's stopped talking to me.)
But, I have met one person on campus who is into video games...though, the genre of games we play are the same, the titles we play are completely different and mine are usually bashed/"looked down on"/not popular enough to sustain a...conversation that doesn't include lots of arguing.
Aside from that, this one person likes to belittle me. He says he's joking around and for a while, I dismissed his crude comments on everything I do. But it's now come to the point where I've literally fussed at him. (He's also fresh out of high school so that...may or may not explain his.....immaturity and how he treats me).
And although, the several other people I've met and have tried to befriend at college have not been difficult to speak with such as the person I've mentioned, trying to communicate with anyone, really, has been causing me to have very little patience with people in real life. It makes me feel lonely, and as if I will never obtain any friends with my kind of love for my hobbies/interest.
The Internet:
I've made a handful of friends on the internet that I appreciate/grateful to know, enjoy talking too. I even have two online friends that I've known for about 6 years and we still keep in contact with each other.
Why is it easier to make friends on the internet than in real life?
It's because you can meet others who share the same interests as you, right?
Because you can trust them and can immediately relate to them, etc.
You don't feel as lonely when you're behind a computer screen chatting away at them.
Right?
Why is it easier?
Why is it easier to hide the loneliness?
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I can't seem to understand why it's so difficult for me to make just one, good solid friend. Trying to make friends in high school was fickle for me (and maybe that's just normal for high schoolers in general) but in College---why is it so hard? (and before anyone asks, yes. I'm in College.)
Real Life:
For a while, I thought it was because of my interests/hobbies. I love video games and I'm a Cosplayer. It's hard for me to talk about anything else that's not related to these subjects and although I try, it just seems fake and forced and it's difficult. Hell, I don't even mention video games to them because they're going to think it's weird and are going to be put off by me. (And trust me, I've told this to one person in my class and she's stopped talking to me.)
But, I have met one person on campus who is into video games...though, the genre of games we play are the same, the titles we play are completely different and mine are usually bashed/"looked down on"/not popular enough to sustain a...conversation that doesn't include lots of arguing.
Aside from that, this one person likes to belittle me. He says he's joking around and for a while, I dismissed his crude comments on everything I do. But it's now come to the point where I've literally fussed at him. (He's also fresh out of high school so that...may or may not explain his.....immaturity and how he treats me).
And although, the several other people I've met and have tried to befriend at college have not been difficult to speak with such as the person I've mentioned, trying to communicate with anyone, really, has been causing me to have very little patience with people in real life. It makes me feel lonely, and as if I will never obtain any friends with my kind of love for my hobbies/interest.
The Internet:
I've made a handful of friends on the internet that I appreciate/grateful to know, enjoy talking too. I even have two online friends that I've known for about 6 years and we still keep in contact with each other.
Why is it easier to make friends on the internet than in real life?
It's because you can meet others who share the same interests as you, right?
Because you can trust them and can immediately relate to them, etc.
You don't feel as lonely when you're behind a computer screen chatting away at them.
Right?
Why is it easier?
Why is it easier to hide the loneliness?