hate said:
I gradually started convincing myself as a teen that I was bad at everything, stupid, worthless, and unworthy. I stopped doing things, started incarcerating myself in my room and not really doing anything self-rewarding. Now I am in my mid-20s and am greatly struggling because of all that. Because of this I've missed out on a lot of experiences, I am ignorant about a lot of things, my sense of humor is poor, I am painfully awkward and shy, and I don't really have any hobbies. I have little to no college education and work experience, still live with my parents, have no friends, don't drive, and have never dated. I feel like I don't really know who I am and where my place in this world is. I don't know what to do with my life. I still feel like I am nothing, and nothing really interests me. I can't stop dwelling on what should've, could've, would've happened...
Anyone else out there like this??
I am curious why you started telling yourself this as a teen. I did, but that was because I was being told I was stupid, which made me feel worthless. Which I took the opposite approach though, I started just working my butt off to make people think I was better than what I thought I was. Now I am super screw up from it though, because now I am not enough...ever! I push myself to the limit, and it has affected my health. And I am like you, I'm in the awkward mid 20s stage in my life! I shouldn't be having health problems with my stress.
To be honest, just go live your life. Don't stress about it. Make mistakes, that's how you learn. Look things up online if you are afraid to mess up, heck I had to watch a youtube video on how to set a mousetrap, pretty freaking dumb right there!
My dad use to say, "I should, I should, I should, till I should all over myself." Don't live with the should've's and should's, just do. Start small. Go for a walk and just make eye contact with people and smile. Talk to people on here everyday or on chat. Then gradually do more and more.
I dwell on my past too, I get days where I punch the steering wheel of my truck because I would think of something in the past that was stupid. But hey, you just gotta fight. You gotta be young and dumb, before you are old and wise.
ventura23 said:
Dating is where young people end up pregnant or heart broken, so many
young people make bad choices,
Meh, I disagree with this. Have I dated guys I shouldn't have, yea. Have done some stupid things, yea. But I don't think as a young person I make bad choices. I take them as learning experiences and not do them again. I think with my past boyfriends, I figured out things about myself. I learned what I want out of life, and what my morals really are. What I believed in. I predicted my futures with these guys and ran when I needed too. And yea, I got dumped. And yea, it sucked, but life goes on.