Your Stories of Missed Opportunities

[michael2]

While this topic may have sad stories, hopefully it reminds some of us that in the past there has been hope, and its likely to present itself again. I had thought no girl had ever liked me or showed interest in me but thinking back, that wasnt really the case.

In High School I was in an art class. We sat 3-4 per table. There were a couple of girls at my table. A few months went by and nothing really happened. Then one day our teacher asked us to draw a portrait of the person sitting across from us. Across from me was this cute girl. So I started drawing her picture. She seemed very impressed with the drawing and she started taking it real seriously, posing perfectly still etc so I could draw her. I admit the picture looked good. This is about the time when she started staring at me a bit and started doing things like grabbing my arms when she wanted to talk to me.

I was shy and a loner and this girl was kind of popular so I guess because of my low confidence I kind of dismissed her behavior as just being 'friendly'. Eventually our class ended and I would see her a few times when walking down the halls and she would always look at me. But my mind wouldnt let me believe she liked me.

But I found something that really shook me to my senses. In art class everybody was given huge folders to put all their drawings in. When class ended I took mine home and put it in my closet. Some months later I decided to look through my drawings. And there it was on the bottom of my folder, written in neat, 'girly' writing: "Michael loves Laura"

Even though this happened about 15 years ago it makes me feel better

A recent instance was this girl who approached me holding a child. Instantly thinking she was married and this was her kid I was kind of cool in our conversation. My father was extremely jealous of my mother and the idea of making a man jealous by being overly friendly with his wife frightened me.

But it turned out the baby was not hers....she was just holding it for someone nearby

I had a woman approach me (small miracle) and I blew it.

Again these stories have sad endings but Im sure there are more stories in the future to experience for me and everyone else here.

 

[msbxa]

I'm not going to bother listing any specific instance in detail but I feel like I've had tons of missed opportunities, to varying degrees. I can't help but take things very slow with people at first, then by the time I start to develop strong feelings for a person and want to do something about it, it is often too late.

I have this dream that has re-occurred every now and then. I have to take a bus or a train out of the city. But when I get there I don't get on right away because I still have time before it leaves. But then, before I can get on, the doors close and it leaves without me.

 

[TheRealCallie]

I suppose you could say I've missed quite a few, but I don't look at it like that. If I didn't get to an opportunity before it passed me by, I think it just wasn't supposed to happen for one reason or another. Opportunities come and go and there will always be another one to come along. If I can, I'll grab it, but if I can't, tomorrow is a another day with more opportunities.
I don't have regrets because everything that's happened in my life (or didn't happen, in this situation) made me who I am today.

 

[kamya]

The only possible outcome of this thread is self loathing.

 

[michael2]

The only possible outcome of this thread is self loathing.

Then this thread has been a terrible mistake. If a mod would delete it, that would be great.

Otherwise, lets let it drop to the bottom and die.

 

[Triple Bogey]

None because nobody has ever been interested in me !

 

[BadGuy]

The only possible outcome of this thread is self loathing.

Then this thread has been a terrible mistake. If a mod would delete it, that would be great.

Otherwise, lets let it drop to the bottom and die.

dont think it is a terrible mistake

I think lots of us are guilty of self doubt or questioning the other persons motives

A buddy once compared dating to fishing
if you dont have a line in the water you wont catch anything

 

[LonesomeLoner]

I won't tell you what they are but I can think of many experiences where I messed up like that. Back then there was always more hope I could make up for it, but I never did. Now I have been single 9 years and haven't been on a date/met a girl for like 7.

 

[Peaches]

Over the years I met two married men who both seemed to be a perfect fit, but married men don't interest me. Because they were both truly nice guys and clearly not totally unhappy, the attraction was only platonic. I guess there was no opportunity to miss there, but still it feels like some kind of loss.

 

[Paraiyar]

To be honest I think in the second example that it was the woman who blew it by approaching you with a child in her arms in the first place. What did she expect you to think?

And I've had plenty of near misses, both in situations that I was trying to get the girl and ones that came out of the blue. I actually think that the difficulty that a lot of women in Europe seem to have with the Kiwi accent may have been what cost me on at least two occasions when I was there recently...

 

[michael2]

None because nobody has ever been interested in me !

Are you sure this is true?

Even if you felt nobody has ever been interested in you, that doesnt mean thats the case. I've probably had a dozen crushes in my life. And only 2 actually really knew I had affection for them. Its extremely likely someone has had a crush on you but you just didnt know it or believe it.