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Hello. Every now and then something happens to me in social settings in which i didn't really know how to act. I would like some advice on those situations. So in this thread i'll post some of those, maybe you got some advice or insight for me to help me improve my social skills. Or anything else you think i need some insight on that i am unable to see. Thanks alot in advance!
Situation 1: This was a couple of days ago at work. I get along well with a lady working at another department. I think she's around 50 years old. We don't have much contact with other departments, we pass through every now and then. If that makes sense. Anyway, i noticed she was more quiet than usual, so i said "you're quiet today." She took me apart a couple of meters away and said her dad just passed away, and that that's why she was quiet. It was kind of nowhere, i was a little .. overwhelmed, i think, can't think of the right word, and responded with "Oh, my condolences." (Not in an i don't care way, mind you)I felt somewhat dumb afterwards. I wanted to do or say more after that but i had not the slightest idea what to do. What would you guys advice?
Situation 2: I was on the train today. After leaving a random station some man came into the train compartment (compartment according to google translate..). Telling his story of being homeless and if anyone had something to spare. I wasn't sure what to do, i get anxious when things like that happen (things i did not predict). I had some food with me, i could've given him that, but i did not. The guy across me said he had some food for him, which he gave. Afterwards i felt happy to have witnessed the guy giving that to him, but i was pondering on what i'd want to do. The food i had with me wasn't healthy, but i figured that was an excuse i made for myself. Basicly i felt bad for not helping the man out, but also didn't really have clear for myself what i'd really want to do, wether it was a simple issue of growing balls and just giving him something while there are plenty of people listening, or something else. What do you think? And what would you do in this situation?
Thank you kindly for reading.
Situation 1: This was a couple of days ago at work. I get along well with a lady working at another department. I think she's around 50 years old. We don't have much contact with other departments, we pass through every now and then. If that makes sense. Anyway, i noticed she was more quiet than usual, so i said "you're quiet today." She took me apart a couple of meters away and said her dad just passed away, and that that's why she was quiet. It was kind of nowhere, i was a little .. overwhelmed, i think, can't think of the right word, and responded with "Oh, my condolences." (Not in an i don't care way, mind you)I felt somewhat dumb afterwards. I wanted to do or say more after that but i had not the slightest idea what to do. What would you guys advice?
Situation 2: I was on the train today. After leaving a random station some man came into the train compartment (compartment according to google translate..). Telling his story of being homeless and if anyone had something to spare. I wasn't sure what to do, i get anxious when things like that happen (things i did not predict). I had some food with me, i could've given him that, but i did not. The guy across me said he had some food for him, which he gave. Afterwards i felt happy to have witnessed the guy giving that to him, but i was pondering on what i'd want to do. The food i had with me wasn't healthy, but i figured that was an excuse i made for myself. Basicly i felt bad for not helping the man out, but also didn't really have clear for myself what i'd really want to do, wether it was a simple issue of growing balls and just giving him something while there are plenty of people listening, or something else. What do you think? And what would you do in this situation?
Thank you kindly for reading.