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de•ca•thect
Pronunciation: (dē"ku-thekt')
—v.t.
to withdraw one's feelings of attachment from (a person, idea, or object), as in anticipation of a future loss: He decathected from her in order to cope with her impending death.
I came across this word, and it got me thinking.
I've personally never done this and would like to think I never will, however I've seen it happen or heard of it happen plenty of times already.
Now this doesn't always have to be something personal, it can happen when it becomes obvious the political party of your choice is not going to win an election, or perhaps when a car you've used for many years will soon be unfit to drive, in such cases you'll "detach" yourself from those things in advance.
However it could also be the fear of having a close friend betray your trust, perhaps you've suffered something like that in the past and when a new friend starts getting close you distance yourself as a defensive mechanism. Maybe someone you've been having deep conversations with online tells you they'll be moving away soon and won't have access to the internet for a long time, suddenly the talks become a lot more mundane, after all why would you still emotionally invest yourself when they'll be out of contact soon anyway?
It got me wondering. Is this human nature, something we all do to a certain extent in those scenarios, or is it a selfish thing to do, disregarding others to safeguard ourselves. Obviously this will vary between different people, some are just a lot more selfless than others (Or vice versa), but I'm still curious when people consider this behaviour to be justified, and when it isn't.
Pronunciation: (dē"ku-thekt')
—v.t.
to withdraw one's feelings of attachment from (a person, idea, or object), as in anticipation of a future loss: He decathected from her in order to cope with her impending death.
I came across this word, and it got me thinking.
I've personally never done this and would like to think I never will, however I've seen it happen or heard of it happen plenty of times already.
Now this doesn't always have to be something personal, it can happen when it becomes obvious the political party of your choice is not going to win an election, or perhaps when a car you've used for many years will soon be unfit to drive, in such cases you'll "detach" yourself from those things in advance.
However it could also be the fear of having a close friend betray your trust, perhaps you've suffered something like that in the past and when a new friend starts getting close you distance yourself as a defensive mechanism. Maybe someone you've been having deep conversations with online tells you they'll be moving away soon and won't have access to the internet for a long time, suddenly the talks become a lot more mundane, after all why would you still emotionally invest yourself when they'll be out of contact soon anyway?
It got me wondering. Is this human nature, something we all do to a certain extent in those scenarios, or is it a selfish thing to do, disregarding others to safeguard ourselves. Obviously this will vary between different people, some are just a lot more selfless than others (Or vice versa), but I'm still curious when people consider this behaviour to be justified, and when it isn't.