Skafish, I think that when you are ready to take an honest objective look at yourself, your accomplishments or lack thereof, your physical appearance, your living situation, your job situation, your interest in or lack of hobbies/interests, your attitude and your goals or lack of...look in the mirror and see if it isn't you who needs to do the work instead of blaming everyone else for not being good enough for you. If you don't present yourself well, there isn't a chance that you will attract the woman you want. And if you want to continue biting the hand that feeds you, go ahead, but the advice train stops for me because as you know, I made efforts to try and help you and support you; and you just seem to not want to give a crap about it, I feel a little taken for granted, but I don't care enough to let it bother me any further. I wonder if a year from now you will be posting about the same subject or will you have finally realized that it's you who needs to change yourself before you can get the life you want.
I had a friend who is obese. I encouraged her until I was ragged to lose the weight, I offered to help her, support her daily, exercise with her, help her shop etc...she whined constantly about having to take blood pressure pills, not finding a man because she was too fat, people mocking her, clothes not fitting, generally being miserable. I met her in 2007, she is the same weight today as she was then plus diabetes, she just wasted another 7 years alone and in misery plus added another preventable disease for her, because she refused to face her reality and do something about it. She is also less one friend in me because I couldn't stand the whining anymore. I hope, again, that you will help yourself. Nobody here owes you a thing, but many people have tried to help you. It's frustrating for people who try to give advice to you, that is sound, to see you ignore it or twist it around.
I'm sorry you had a huge fight with her, and I hope that might be the catalyst for you to take the action you need. And if you think that my post in particular is a "ha ha I'm so happy you are sad" post, then you know what you can do with it. Just don't be so insulting to those who are trying to help you.