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What do you do if you are single and looking but all your friends are more outgoing, have better qualities and just simply always get the attention in social situations (romantically or not) instead of you?
I am 25, never had a gf, hugged, had sex, kissed or even touched a girl and am a very very quiet, reserved type of guy who would love nothing more than to find a romantic companion. I actually get around alot because I am the guitarist in a band who gig atleast 2 times a week, we travel around the country a bit for gigs in the UK (although we will nearly always drive back to our home town after each gig so it is not like we are on the road al the time). I am a creative person who loves music and art and such... admire beauty in nature and have many interests. I have been told I am very mysterious (been told I am a Dark horse many times) and even had people say I am the nicest guy they ever met.
Sound like good qualities to some maybe... But I have two crushing qualities. That being that I am not physically attractive to females in the slightest and that I basically have social anxiety disorder.
My friends and band members are like the complete opposite to me when it comes to being social... They are very outgoing and confident people. Playing in a band has helped tremendously with confidence issues and I think I carry myself alot better now but I am still terrible at socialising and I think I may very well be like that to a certain degree for the rest of my life.
I am literally always in the background because no one ever want's to socialize with me and I am terrible at socializing with them. If someone comments about me in some way, it wont be commented to me, it will be commented to a friend. I simply do not know what to do! It Seems like I have some kind of aura which repels people from wanting to initiate conversation with me but I honestly think I greet people well and with a smile when I manage it. I AM a friendly person, got brought up with good morals and I would never hurt anyone but it seems people are wary of me or something.
It seems totally impossible for me to ever find someone. I do not, as such, agree with dating because I find it to be fake and what I mean by that is just asking some random girl who I dont know to go out somewhere. That just seems very strange to me and almost desperate. I guess I sort of believe that things should happen naturally or not at all... Maybe I believe that because I am a bit of a romantic.
I partially did this post to get this off my back and I guess to just try and sort of reflect and think about my situation because it bothers me a hell of alot.
Any, and I mean any, possibly advice would be much welcomed.
I am 25, never had a gf, hugged, had sex, kissed or even touched a girl and am a very very quiet, reserved type of guy who would love nothing more than to find a romantic companion. I actually get around alot because I am the guitarist in a band who gig atleast 2 times a week, we travel around the country a bit for gigs in the UK (although we will nearly always drive back to our home town after each gig so it is not like we are on the road al the time). I am a creative person who loves music and art and such... admire beauty in nature and have many interests. I have been told I am very mysterious (been told I am a Dark horse many times) and even had people say I am the nicest guy they ever met.
Sound like good qualities to some maybe... But I have two crushing qualities. That being that I am not physically attractive to females in the slightest and that I basically have social anxiety disorder.
My friends and band members are like the complete opposite to me when it comes to being social... They are very outgoing and confident people. Playing in a band has helped tremendously with confidence issues and I think I carry myself alot better now but I am still terrible at socialising and I think I may very well be like that to a certain degree for the rest of my life.
I am literally always in the background because no one ever want's to socialize with me and I am terrible at socializing with them. If someone comments about me in some way, it wont be commented to me, it will be commented to a friend. I simply do not know what to do! It Seems like I have some kind of aura which repels people from wanting to initiate conversation with me but I honestly think I greet people well and with a smile when I manage it. I AM a friendly person, got brought up with good morals and I would never hurt anyone but it seems people are wary of me or something.
It seems totally impossible for me to ever find someone. I do not, as such, agree with dating because I find it to be fake and what I mean by that is just asking some random girl who I dont know to go out somewhere. That just seems very strange to me and almost desperate. I guess I sort of believe that things should happen naturally or not at all... Maybe I believe that because I am a bit of a romantic.
I partially did this post to get this off my back and I guess to just try and sort of reflect and think about my situation because it bothers me a hell of alot.
Any, and I mean any, possibly advice would be much welcomed.