Guys please stop doing this....

[acedna]

I know a woman on Facebook who always posts pictures of different women with blonde hair. They are always sexy in the pictures. I cannot tell you how many guys comment on the pictures asking her about the pics. The funny thing is that THE PICTURES ARE NOT OF HER! They are different blonde girls. It infuriates me because the men always think it is here. I have found the pictures on the internet and even commented about it. lol Then I think of why that lady does this...it is not good. I know she looks nothing like the pictures and is actually around 60 years old. I just do not understand why she puts up those pictures when she knows the attention is really not for her.

 

[Sterling]

A lot of guys don't catch their own hypocrisy. I mean jesus christ, how many guys here would be complete ******* "man sluts" if they could sleep with a crapload of hot women. But the moment a woman does NOT EVEN that (just putting up attention whoring, no pun intended, photos), shes a slut. Well I think a lot of you are just jealous/sad/whatever that you aren't getting laid or that you aren't very physically attractive. Let alone, if most of you were good looking (and knew it), I'm sure most of you would be flaunting it as well.

I just find this thread hilarious. I so agree with the above statement lol.

 

[Revengineer]

I know a woman on Facebook who always posts pictures of different women with blonde hair. They are always sexy in the pictures. I cannot tell you how many guys comment on the pictures asking her about the pics. The funny thing is that THE PICTURES ARE NOT OF HER! They are different blonde girls. It infuriates me because the men always think it is here. I have found the pictures on the internet and even commented about it. lol Then I think of why that lady does this...it is not good. I know she looks nothing like the pictures and is actually around 60 years old. I just do not understand why she puts up those pictures when she knows the attention is really not for her.

Maybe she's just a massive troll who likes to mess with the Facebook crowd

 

[Mike413]

I agree with the OP. Both men and women can have massive egos though. For men it's the body builder guys who have six pack abs, are super built, a full head of hair and think they are god's gift to women. For women it's the PB centerfold or super model, bikini wearing super hot babe who wants to be an actress or model or whatever(even porn star). These people are kind of rare and not everyone who is physically attractive or super handsome or whatever has the ego to go with it. Last year I talked to this woman in a bar who was beyond drop dead gorgeous. At the very least she was a ten on the ten scale but I would give her an eleven. She was talking to me and me her and we were having a nice conversation even though it only lasted a minute or two. She was with her friends so bad logistics. The point is not every beautiful woman is like that(although most certainly seem to be) and probably the same goes for men as well. It's important to not generalize but I agree that too many people feed their egos.

 

[ajdass1]

What the hell is wrong with it if a girl wants to show herself off on the internet? Who does it hurt? Nobody. Who the hell cares if guys are liking their pictures and stuff?

The REAL problem to me is when you get a bunch of arrogant ******* who think they have a right to tell a girl that she's ugly, or bully her for being fat, or tell her to kill herself, or send her death or rape threats just for EXISTING. Why don't we talk about THAT honeysuckle instead?

In fact, who the HELL are you to think you have a right to call a girl a hoe for putting sexy pictures of herself online or to tell her she needs to be more respectful or humble? In fact, it's YOU who needs to be more respectful and humble and stop trying to control what women do with their bodies.

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[TropicalStarfish]

Yeah, this whole thread was posted on the premise of jealousy. I know I've been guilty of it. Everyone is born with different gifts/curses and everyone can hone certain disciplines and skills, etc...

As I understand it a ho, or a whore, is some one who supports themselves for a living by soliciting sexual favors. In most places this is considered illegal and not the type of life anyone would be jealous of. As with anything I'm sure some whores enjoy their job and get payed well to do it, but most of them are probably struggling to get by and dealing with a lot of deep unresolved emotional issues they will probably take to their grave.

A slut on the other hand is some one who is very casual with their sexual encounters, as far as social context is concerned. Johnny may sleep with marry and develop feelings of attachment for her. Hey may buy her some flowers a week later and ask her on a proper date, only to find out she slept with jimmy and didn't develop any feelings of attachment. He may be upset and hurt and call her a slut, and she may develop a reputation as a slut for leaving such a large trail of hurt and betrayed men in her wake. She may be seeking to fill a void in her life, or perhaps just enjoys her powers and is unashamed. Either way, she has not only the right, but as a consenting adult owes nothing to anybody. Do not even marriage contracts fall by the wayside?

Beautiful looking girls who are confident in their sexuality and appearance will tend to draw people to them. This is why the porn industry thrives, why Playboy did so well and continues to do well, etc.. etc..

Essentially what you are talking about is wanting to return to an older way. Perhaps you imagine a world where women are forced to cover every inch of their bodies except for their eyes? I find such a practice in culture to be very interesting. However, I think if a woman wants to achieve fame and have hundreds of thouasands of men jerking off to her, she deserves the choice to take her life into that direction as well.

In my opinion, there is no need to be jealous. You see, that, when you look at things relatively, there are pros and cons to nearly all positions in life, if not all of them. It's mostly just our lack of perception, our limited point of view, that prevents us from realizing this. I'm in no position to give advice here, I've been guilty of sharing the same feelings of the OP, but, I know that's on me. That's my problem. I choose to make an unequal comparison and get all riled up about it. In the end I only hurt myself. Everyone else is either enjoying a beautiful sight or dealing with a very large social dynamic I probably couldn't comprehend, much less want to actually deal with.

It's kind of like how everyone wants to have a lot of money, but few people are willing or able to do what is required to acquire massive wealth. Most people just buy that lottery ticket, and cross their fingers, while a select few work really ******* hard, and even fewer work hard and happen to be in the right place at the right time. Some times it's just plain luck to begin with.

Don't compare, don't be bitter.

 

[WildernessWildChild]

What the hell is wrong with it if a girl wants to show herself off on the internet? Who does it hurt? Nobody. Who the hell cares if guys are liking their pictures and stuff?

The REAL problem to me is when you get a bunch of arrogant ******* who think they have a right to tell a girl that she's ugly, or bully her for being fat, or tell her to kill herself, or send her death or rape threats just for EXISTING. Why don't we talk about THAT honeysuckle instead?

In fact, who the HELL are you to think you have a right to call a girl a hoe for putting sexy pictures of herself online or to tell her she needs to be more respectful or humble? In fact, it's YOU who needs to be more respectful and humble and stop trying to control what women do with their bodies.

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This post is great- well said ajdass.....+1

 

[frey12]

This thread started out with some extremely sexist rhetoric. The original poster called females hoes for behavior that he didn't approve of. He then said women should respect themselves. This statement was then promptly followed by someone calling females sluts, because hoes are paid for it. Come on moderators stop this type of behavior.

This is just a misogynistic thread and needs to be condemned.

 

[AutumgGypsy]

The gist that I'm getting from this whole topic is "attention seeking = bad."

Is it bad? Is it so bad to have a big ego? To feed someone's else ego? Don't we ALL seek attention? We just do it in different ways...no? Living things need attention, if you don't get it somewhere you're going to find other outlets to get it.

If you're not hurting anyone physically or emotionally, where exactly does this become a bad thing? What about live and let live?

This thread makes me

 

[ghbarnaby2]

Hmmm....well large egos can hurt the people around a person. Being blinded so much by how "wonderful" one is can, in turn, blind them to the plight of others. No one person is an island unto themselves - everyone needs other people, if one cannot respond to another with the same human dignity they will most likely leave them be. This idea, I believe, can be applied to people with "weaker" egos as well, who isolate themselves for fear of rejection and the like.

 

[AutumgGypsy]

Hmmm....well large egos can hurt the people around a person. Being blinded so much by how "wonderful" one is can, in turn, blind them to the plight of others. No one person is an island unto themselves - everyone needs other people, if one cannot respond to another with the same human dignity they will most likely leave them be. This idea, I believe, can be applied to people with "weaker" egos as well, who isolate themselves for fear of rejection and the like.

I guess it can. But that's not always the case. My boyfriend's friend has probably the BIGGEST ego of a person I've ever met in my entire life. We joke constantly about him and the things he says and does. But when push comes to shove, he's there for his friends. He cares about others around him. He's there to support others in an emotional crisis. I think we are confusing a big ego with a general disregard and apathy for those around you. One doesn't necessarily equal the other.

 

[Oldyoung]

I don't care so much about giving people compliments. But as others have mentioned, the problem is the negative comments. And completely useless terms like 'slut' and 'hoe'. Those words just make girls and women afraid to approach guys, and so they have to get more picky..

And them being more picky, means it's less chance they'll flirt with and approach us 'regular guys'..

Being picky is their shield against those awful comments.

The degrading and negative comments to girls and women who just 'open up' needs to stop. Both for our and their sake.

(only a theory of mine, only my thoughts)

 

[Mike413]

So it's not ok to call someone ugly but it's ok to call someone beautiful. The reason being one is an insult and the other is a compliment. Well if someone is unattractive then they won't get compliments or comments on their appearance then. Meanwhile pretty boys and girls' egos will be fed up the wazoo. I say stop judging people by their looks period unless maybe you are trying to pursue them romantically or something. Compliment them on something other than their appearance like their personality. Just a thought.

 

[MellyVinelli]

Actually I spend a lot less time on Facebook now as it only makes me depressed about how little I have accomplished compared toy classmates. The only people with extensive profiles are beautiful people with thousands of what seem to be more followers than anything else, numerous shots of their hot significant other, and gloating about their profession and their inner circle of elite friends.

 

[Mike413]

I'm not on FB anymore. I was on there for about a year then left. I just felt it was phoney or something(not to sound like Holden Caulfield ).

 

[ghbarnaby2]

Hmmm....well large egos can hurt the people around a person. Being blinded so much by how "wonderful" one is can, in turn, blind them to the plight of others. No one person is an island unto themselves - everyone needs other people, if one cannot respond to another with the same human dignity they will most likely leave them be. This idea, I believe, can be applied to people with "weaker" egos as well, who isolate themselves for fear of rejection and the like.

I guess it can. But that's not always the case. My boyfriend's friend has probably the BIGGEST ego of a person I've ever met in my entire life. We joke constantly about him and the things he says and does. But when push comes to shove, he's there for his friends. He cares about others around him. He's there to support others in an emotional crisis. I think we are confusing a big ego with a general disregard and apathy for those around you. One doesn't necessarily equal the other.

Hmm...I'm not sure about that. The person you're using as a basis seems to have a healthy ego not a large one (to me), but I don't know them, and since you have a personal connection with this person it makes sense to use them as an example for you.
Many people with healthy egos function well in society. Those with large egos or superbly inflated ones tend to have a general disregard for others. Interacting with these types of people is emotionally draining for everyone involved and mentally poisonous.
Most CEOs have a tendency towards psychopathy, with one of the keys points of that mental illness being an inflated sense of self-worth (large ego), this is not to say there aren't others out there who do not but there are more studies on this behavior on large groups rather than personal experience.

http://www.businessweek.com/magazine/the-stack-the-psychopath-test-by-jon-ronson-07212011.html

 

[PyramidHead]

So, why are you interested in girls with huge egos? Let them have it. Let the guys who want to shower girls with compliments shower them.

Because at the end of the day, there will always be girls who don't get all that much compliments. But one day, these girls will meet a guy and the shower will be something they never expected to happen. Then there will be happiness, at least for a small ego and a small confidence that gets a push it deserves. And this fact alone, needs this whole thing to go on. As well, drama queens and attention seekers may not be the most fun thing in general, but at some point, even they learn that the attention is a bird that switches it's master very fast.

 

[perfanoff]

I've dealt with a lot of those dolls obviously. They are the loudest and always make a fuss around themselves.

As a part of an all-male workplace, two of them make discussions like that a lot of the time. It really reminds me of discussing merchandise. Sometimes they used to show me a picture of one of those girls.

Here's a typical example:

These people can not for their life comprehend that I'm not attracted but repulsed to THAT type of "woman". I mean come the fresia on. It's really that hard to comprehend that some people want something more than simple sex dolls?