Treelooney
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Hi to all on the board!! Best wishes from England.
I was pleased to find this site, because I do indeed have a problem with loneliness, and have done for most of my life to date. Funnily enough I get on pretty well with most people. I have had the same job for a few years now, and I work mostly with women, and without boasting, I am reasonably popular with them. My problem starts when I get on the bus to go home, and when I get there, I don't know what to do.
I stress that I do NOT have a television, and have not had one for about 17 years, so no-one can accuse me of watching TV every night. With no TV I quite often try new hobbies, but mostly they just kind of dissipate. For instance, I bought a piano, and spent maybe 3 months learning to play it. I did OK, but of course it was a lonely hobby! I wasn't really enjoying it, so you can guess what happened - I started missing days here and there, then I missed two or three days on the trot, then a week, and now I have the piano in storage!
I have done quite a few other things, such as becoming a football referee (soccer), taking courses at college, joining a gym, joining adventure clubs, going away for weekends and stuff, and some of it I really enjoyed, but I didn't really make any friends that way.
I usually give my hobbies as follows:
* Foreign travel (this is true, I have been to 62 countries, but I always travel alone)
* Planting trees (again, this is true, but it can only be done in the winter, and I usually only do one project a year)
* Chess (I am not a bad chess player, and the local club are always asking me to play in the team, but I do find it a boring game).
Other than that, I have interests such as astronomy and space, and science fiction, but you can't really do much with those except read about them.
I am lucky enough to be a fit, healthy man, and I will be 53 this year. I am not sure how much detail to give here. I am straight, but I have never ever had a ladyfriend, and have rarely been on dates. I am still a virgin at 52, and have never really kissed a woman.
I have also had a long-standing problem with depression and self-harm. For instance, I had a really good job with British Airways a few years ago, but I was fired for deliberately cutting myself at work, quite nastily. I was so upset I had a spell in psychiatric hospital.
I then went to college, learning TESOL (teaching English to speakers of other languages) but I was kicked out of college for deliberately cutting myself. Sometimes I get so lonely and depressed, cutting myself is the only way to get a bit of attention.
Anyway, it's not all bad news. Due to all the college courses I have done, I have a multitude of work skills, and am pretty much immune to unemployment. I try to do things for others, but would not wish to reveal that here, as it's between me and God. I do have a sense of humour but it is often hidden under layers of depression.
Thank you for your kindness in reading this post. I appreciate it! I am not sure if this is a typical "intro" but I will post it and see what people think.
Best wishes and have a nice day.
Bill.
I was pleased to find this site, because I do indeed have a problem with loneliness, and have done for most of my life to date. Funnily enough I get on pretty well with most people. I have had the same job for a few years now, and I work mostly with women, and without boasting, I am reasonably popular with them. My problem starts when I get on the bus to go home, and when I get there, I don't know what to do.
I stress that I do NOT have a television, and have not had one for about 17 years, so no-one can accuse me of watching TV every night. With no TV I quite often try new hobbies, but mostly they just kind of dissipate. For instance, I bought a piano, and spent maybe 3 months learning to play it. I did OK, but of course it was a lonely hobby! I wasn't really enjoying it, so you can guess what happened - I started missing days here and there, then I missed two or three days on the trot, then a week, and now I have the piano in storage!
I have done quite a few other things, such as becoming a football referee (soccer), taking courses at college, joining a gym, joining adventure clubs, going away for weekends and stuff, and some of it I really enjoyed, but I didn't really make any friends that way.
I usually give my hobbies as follows:
* Foreign travel (this is true, I have been to 62 countries, but I always travel alone)
* Planting trees (again, this is true, but it can only be done in the winter, and I usually only do one project a year)
* Chess (I am not a bad chess player, and the local club are always asking me to play in the team, but I do find it a boring game).
Other than that, I have interests such as astronomy and space, and science fiction, but you can't really do much with those except read about them.
I am lucky enough to be a fit, healthy man, and I will be 53 this year. I am not sure how much detail to give here. I am straight, but I have never ever had a ladyfriend, and have rarely been on dates. I am still a virgin at 52, and have never really kissed a woman.
I have also had a long-standing problem with depression and self-harm. For instance, I had a really good job with British Airways a few years ago, but I was fired for deliberately cutting myself at work, quite nastily. I was so upset I had a spell in psychiatric hospital.
I then went to college, learning TESOL (teaching English to speakers of other languages) but I was kicked out of college for deliberately cutting myself. Sometimes I get so lonely and depressed, cutting myself is the only way to get a bit of attention.
Anyway, it's not all bad news. Due to all the college courses I have done, I have a multitude of work skills, and am pretty much immune to unemployment. I try to do things for others, but would not wish to reveal that here, as it's between me and God. I do have a sense of humour but it is often hidden under layers of depression.
Thank you for your kindness in reading this post. I appreciate it! I am not sure if this is a typical "intro" but I will post it and see what people think.
Best wishes and have a nice day.
Bill.
