Pretty much everyone uses facebook these days yes? My and my partner do to keep in touch with family abroad (me in Europe, him in US). And although I have lots of “friends” listed from UK I can say that most of these are just people I know as colleague from work. I hate discussing anything on there as it seems to be a forum for pistake rather than proper discussion. Nothing wrong with bit of fun but its not for me. My partner however uses it all the time mainly to moan about his pet hates knowing he will get cheerful answers from his buddies.
So as it happens he post one of his complaints about annoying loud eating habits. Few people reply some being sympathetic others laughing at him for getting silly things get to him etc. As I am going to reply that I appreciate his patience when I each peanuts because I love to crunch them, smiley face that kind of thing I notice one of the other replies is from a woman I know he used to work with over 5 years ago and her reply reads: ‘You never complained when I had a mouthful’ Further down someone asks her WTF!?
How would you feel? Being depressed my mind automatically starts to get into a panic as to who the hell she is and wtf is she telling him that for? I try to reason they used to work together and I know he was promiscuous in past so I try to calm down that this is some sort of fluzy from said past and posted my reply anyway trying to put it out of my mind. I probably would have eventually but he mentioned his post and some of the replies to my housemate at dinner that night. I had to ask who the hell is she. He admitted shyly they used to work together. I said I know but did they date? He said no so I had ask did he fxxk her? He gets agitated and says yes he did. I have no idea why but I need to ask one last question – was it just the ones or was it a regular get together? At this point he gets really angry and we argue as to why do I need to know that what’s it going to change and why am I giving him a grief for something he has no control over. I explain I’m not giving him grief for her writing it, he can’t change that but he could have deleted it to protect my feelings (although this could have made him look guilty as if he is trying to hide something) or he could have replied to her to stop writing stuff like that again, he has a girlfriend and don’t want his shady past all over the net. Even his mother reads his facebook for god’s sake.
So he ‘s pissed of that I’m having a go for him not doing anything about it when really it is her fault for writing it in a first place. We kind of left it there
Initially I had no idea why I wanted to know more details but I arrived at a conclusion now. Depending on what and how many times may have happened she may have thought about herself as a bigger part in his life than he may have seen her as hence she talks about it in front of the whole world. This is something women do and I am giving her the credit of not being total slut here (if I’m wrong about her then she may not see herself as any importance to him but just wanted to be a queen *****). So if he had only seen her once the latter would apply by default. This is because I think women can not separate sex and feelings, the brain is not wired to do that. Any woman telling otherwise lies. It’s as basic as ‘he wants me so he likes so I must look good therefore I feel good’.
What do you think? Would you protect your partner from arseholes like that girl? I would. I think I would say something in front of everyone. Could be a little as ‘my partner and my mother read my facebook and I don’t want either of them upset of offended by you/don’t want either of them to be hurt by my shady past, no more comments of this nature or we are no longer friends’
Was I right to get upset that he didn’t do anything about it?
So as it happens he post one of his complaints about annoying loud eating habits. Few people reply some being sympathetic others laughing at him for getting silly things get to him etc. As I am going to reply that I appreciate his patience when I each peanuts because I love to crunch them, smiley face that kind of thing I notice one of the other replies is from a woman I know he used to work with over 5 years ago and her reply reads: ‘You never complained when I had a mouthful’ Further down someone asks her WTF!?
How would you feel? Being depressed my mind automatically starts to get into a panic as to who the hell she is and wtf is she telling him that for? I try to reason they used to work together and I know he was promiscuous in past so I try to calm down that this is some sort of fluzy from said past and posted my reply anyway trying to put it out of my mind. I probably would have eventually but he mentioned his post and some of the replies to my housemate at dinner that night. I had to ask who the hell is she. He admitted shyly they used to work together. I said I know but did they date? He said no so I had ask did he fxxk her? He gets agitated and says yes he did. I have no idea why but I need to ask one last question – was it just the ones or was it a regular get together? At this point he gets really angry and we argue as to why do I need to know that what’s it going to change and why am I giving him a grief for something he has no control over. I explain I’m not giving him grief for her writing it, he can’t change that but he could have deleted it to protect my feelings (although this could have made him look guilty as if he is trying to hide something) or he could have replied to her to stop writing stuff like that again, he has a girlfriend and don’t want his shady past all over the net. Even his mother reads his facebook for god’s sake.
So he ‘s pissed of that I’m having a go for him not doing anything about it when really it is her fault for writing it in a first place. We kind of left it there
Initially I had no idea why I wanted to know more details but I arrived at a conclusion now. Depending on what and how many times may have happened she may have thought about herself as a bigger part in his life than he may have seen her as hence she talks about it in front of the whole world. This is something women do and I am giving her the credit of not being total slut here (if I’m wrong about her then she may not see herself as any importance to him but just wanted to be a queen *****). So if he had only seen her once the latter would apply by default. This is because I think women can not separate sex and feelings, the brain is not wired to do that. Any woman telling otherwise lies. It’s as basic as ‘he wants me so he likes so I must look good therefore I feel good’.
What do you think? Would you protect your partner from arseholes like that girl? I would. I think I would say something in front of everyone. Could be a little as ‘my partner and my mother read my facebook and I don’t want either of them upset of offended by you/don’t want either of them to be hurt by my shady past, no more comments of this nature or we are no longer friends’
Was I right to get upset that he didn’t do anything about it?