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Socialawkwardness101
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I wasn't sure which section to post this in as it's kind of a mix of everything, but as it all results in the feeling on loneliness I think it's best to post here.
I've always struggled with self-image and feelings of inferiority since I can remember. I am very insecure about a number of things appearance-wise, which means I can be very shy. Because of this I always prided myself on my academic achievements. I worked hard in school and achieved good grades and got into university.
While at university I was, of course, forced to socialise. Rather than shy away, I forced myself to make friends, but it was difficult and I struggled to connect with my peers in the first year. In the 2nd year I decided to move in with some of my classmates, so I could socialise even more. It didn't turn out so well as I couldn't escape this constant social situation that I was uncomfortable with, and I had to constantly wear this mask of confidence. It was tiring, and I ended up shutting myself in my room, further alienating myself.
Due to a combination of this, and relationship issues, and general deterioration of my self-image and confidence, I became depressed. I barely slept or ate, and did nothing except sit at my computer playing games and watching shows online. I stopped turning up for lectures, and barely managed in my exams. I eventually failed my course when it came to my dissertation as I couldn't even bring myself to start it. Everytime I opened up Word I was filled with dread, and feelings of worthlessness. This went on until it was too late to begin. I did try, albeit in vain, to complete something that resembled a dissertation, but it wasn't enough.
Failing my course was probably the worst thing that's ever happened to me, and I haven't yet managed to recover from how it made me feel. I've been struggling to find a job ever since, and currently living with my mother. I just turned 24 and feeling as pathetic as ever that I'm not living by myself with a job.
Struggling to find a job is pushing me further and further into these feelings of worthlessness as no one is hiring me, not even Supermarket stores. I recently split with my girlfriend of 3 years, caused by my issues, which hasn't helped me either.
So now I'm at home, at my computer, just waiting for something to happen. I know things don't tend to happen by themselves, but as I go to motivate myself, the familiar feeling of dread returns and keeps me where I am.
I am surrounded by a lovely family, and I have friends to socialise with, but I have never felt more alone, insecure and worthless. And because I have friends and a nice family, and a good home to live in, I feel terrible knowing that I'm in no way worse off than many other people, which makes me feel really guilty.
I know this was a long post, and I appreciate all those that read through it all. I would like to hear your thoughts and opinions, and I would like to hear from people who are in or have been in a similar situation.
I've always struggled with self-image and feelings of inferiority since I can remember. I am very insecure about a number of things appearance-wise, which means I can be very shy. Because of this I always prided myself on my academic achievements. I worked hard in school and achieved good grades and got into university.
While at university I was, of course, forced to socialise. Rather than shy away, I forced myself to make friends, but it was difficult and I struggled to connect with my peers in the first year. In the 2nd year I decided to move in with some of my classmates, so I could socialise even more. It didn't turn out so well as I couldn't escape this constant social situation that I was uncomfortable with, and I had to constantly wear this mask of confidence. It was tiring, and I ended up shutting myself in my room, further alienating myself.
Due to a combination of this, and relationship issues, and general deterioration of my self-image and confidence, I became depressed. I barely slept or ate, and did nothing except sit at my computer playing games and watching shows online. I stopped turning up for lectures, and barely managed in my exams. I eventually failed my course when it came to my dissertation as I couldn't even bring myself to start it. Everytime I opened up Word I was filled with dread, and feelings of worthlessness. This went on until it was too late to begin. I did try, albeit in vain, to complete something that resembled a dissertation, but it wasn't enough.
Failing my course was probably the worst thing that's ever happened to me, and I haven't yet managed to recover from how it made me feel. I've been struggling to find a job ever since, and currently living with my mother. I just turned 24 and feeling as pathetic as ever that I'm not living by myself with a job.
Struggling to find a job is pushing me further and further into these feelings of worthlessness as no one is hiring me, not even Supermarket stores. I recently split with my girlfriend of 3 years, caused by my issues, which hasn't helped me either.
So now I'm at home, at my computer, just waiting for something to happen. I know things don't tend to happen by themselves, but as I go to motivate myself, the familiar feeling of dread returns and keeps me where I am.
I am surrounded by a lovely family, and I have friends to socialise with, but I have never felt more alone, insecure and worthless. And because I have friends and a nice family, and a good home to live in, I feel terrible knowing that I'm in no way worse off than many other people, which makes me feel really guilty.
I know this was a long post, and I appreciate all those that read through it all. I would like to hear your thoughts and opinions, and I would like to hear from people who are in or have been in a similar situation.