stargirl86
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Hi guys,
Just found this forum, thought it might be useful for things I’m struggling with. I have a boyfriend and we’ve been going out 9 months(ish). The other week when he came round he said he wanted to break up bcos we’d been arguing recently and he didn’t think I was “the one”. It was horrible. He kept saying he loved me throughout the time until the next day when he say he would give us a second chance, believing “love conquers”. I was happy about this although confused. He is so busy at work though he can’t see me until a week today, I just feel horrible, like I don’t know what to think/what he’s thinking, and I’m worried about bothering him too much with texts etc. It stresses me out so much. Like when we broke up, I felt like I was in a black hole which I would not come out from. I knew that feeling would last for months based on previous break-ups.
I just wish I knew how to break up with people without feeling like that. It’s almost like whether I want to stay with the person is less important than the effect I know the breakup will have on me. Right now I am just worried and feel sad. Like I assume things are ok, we are still in a relationship on fb and he is a good sort so I don’t think he’d not tell me if he’d changed his mind again. But I worry about what is going through his mind now, if he is regretting the decision, and what is going to happen next week. Having to wait is really hard for me. I find it difficult to believe he loves me, even though he says it all the time. I don’t want to break up with him so much, because I know I will be in a black hole. I know things aren’t perfect, but I still think they’re pretty good and I do like being in a relationship. I do sometimes question if I wasn’t so scared about the effect of breaking up on me, how would I feel about it then? Like, although I do love him I know we have some differences too. All I know now though is that I don’t want to break up with him. I wish I didn’t feel so **** awful right now, we haven’t even broken up yet!
Thanks,
stargirl
Just found this forum, thought it might be useful for things I’m struggling with. I have a boyfriend and we’ve been going out 9 months(ish). The other week when he came round he said he wanted to break up bcos we’d been arguing recently and he didn’t think I was “the one”. It was horrible. He kept saying he loved me throughout the time until the next day when he say he would give us a second chance, believing “love conquers”. I was happy about this although confused. He is so busy at work though he can’t see me until a week today, I just feel horrible, like I don’t know what to think/what he’s thinking, and I’m worried about bothering him too much with texts etc. It stresses me out so much. Like when we broke up, I felt like I was in a black hole which I would not come out from. I knew that feeling would last for months based on previous break-ups.
I just wish I knew how to break up with people without feeling like that. It’s almost like whether I want to stay with the person is less important than the effect I know the breakup will have on me. Right now I am just worried and feel sad. Like I assume things are ok, we are still in a relationship on fb and he is a good sort so I don’t think he’d not tell me if he’d changed his mind again. But I worry about what is going through his mind now, if he is regretting the decision, and what is going to happen next week. Having to wait is really hard for me. I find it difficult to believe he loves me, even though he says it all the time. I don’t want to break up with him so much, because I know I will be in a black hole. I know things aren’t perfect, but I still think they’re pretty good and I do like being in a relationship. I do sometimes question if I wasn’t so scared about the effect of breaking up on me, how would I feel about it then? Like, although I do love him I know we have some differences too. All I know now though is that I don’t want to break up with him. I wish I didn’t feel so **** awful right now, we haven’t even broken up yet!
Thanks,
stargirl