Carpediem1972
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Hey all ... not sure what to say , im scared if i start i may not stop ... i have in the last 4 months lost pretty much all of my friends and am now finding myself very very lonely - if it wasnt for my kids im not sure what i would do - im an european immigrant and been here for 11 years - divorced since 3 years and i have no family here at all so i guess i have been replacing family with friends . A few months ago my best friend lost her house about the same time as this dude i just had started seeing also lost his house and somehow they all ended up staying here at my house with partners , pets and kids - no need to say it was pretty full packed here as i have 2 kids a cat and dog myself and with all them it was an extra 3 adults , 3 cats and 4 kids .... and it wasnt too bad to start with but soon i realized i was cleaning , washing and cooking for everyone and no one else did anything - so i went on strike ... i sat my butt down infront of computer and played games most of the time til they realized nothing was washed or no clean dishes or no food in fridge .... not to mention the fact i didnt get a single cent from any of them for food or help with bills and instead of actually helping with the chores they all left ..... but not before they stole smokes and stuff and not before they had ruined another good friendship for me .. and by the time they left my bills was getting out of control and i was and still am seriously broke - my backyard looks like a rubbish dump where they just left their broken furniture and rubbish they didnt want to take with them .. now thats left with me , will cost a fortune to get rid of , my powerbill is so high i cant even keep up with the fortnightly payments on a hardship plan - it took 3 months to pay one of the 2 phonebills - homephone .. now i need to pay off the mobile bill which was double from homephone and will take double the time ... and however grateful i am that they are not here anymore at the same time i lost them all as friends as well , together with another friend since 6 years back and for that im really sad ... i isolated myself for a few months after that , licked my wounds before starting seeing ppl again .. made some new friends and was starting to enjoy life a bit more until that too came crashing down a few days ago when out of the blue they dismissed me and "broke up" with me .. i had said something they didnt like ... i still dont know what ... it took a day or so til i realized they werent really friends ... i was handy for a while as i had a car and we all got the "once a year extra cash" ... i got mine first and by the time mine was gone they got theirs and they cut me off ... so back to no friends again ... and it just feel even worse ... i cry all the time and my kids are confused why ppl dont come here anymore ... i really havent got anyone i can call a friend left .. i have a couple of ppl i say hi to at kids school but no one i can ring to just chat to or no one to share good or bad things like ppl do with friends , i havent had a single phone call or text message for a week , one visitor to my house only to ask for something someone forgot .. and then weekend came and my kids went to their dads house and then i realized just how lonely i am ... and spent the weekend crying and wondering what to do , what this is doing to my kids , feeling very guilty and scared to death .. wondering if im getting too old to find new friends and at the same time wondering if its worth trying as i dont seem to have much luck with those ... i am a decent person with good morals and good values ... im honest to the point where im blunt which isnt always appreciated but im a really bad lier so i learnt early that honesty is better , lies are hard to keep up with , too much u need to remember to get right - i have 2 things i live by a lot - treat others the way u want them to treat u and dont ask the question if u cant handle the answer ! Anyways i dont think im a bad person but starting to wonder if it is all me ... i just cant seem to keep anything or anyone in my life and it hurts so much , i dont wanna be this lonely , i dont wanna feel this way , cry all the time and snap and get angry with kids all the time for every little thing but what do i do ?