We've all heard do this, this, and this while taking this, this, and that. Like so many others have said, the therapist, counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists, doctors, and various other medical professionals typically turn to books or fall back on their training as guidance while guessing and trying different approaches to help. Some draw from their own one or two experiences and apply that to everybody else. But, basically they really don't know honeysuckle. You don't see electricians or plumbers just guessing at how wires and pipes should be installed. I know, I know, the mind is much more complicated. Blaaa, Blaaa, Blaaa.
I remember a psychotherapist that was working with me. I do not and will not take any drugs except for extreme injuries. So, he went in the direction of everything is a result of my actions and I need to take responsibility of the results of those actions while not being a victim. That's fine. But, then he wanted me to be angry at my father for whatever reason and hit his couch with a foam bat. I already know how to vent. That's not the issue. I wouldn't get angry at my father because he was my best friend until he died. He was probably the only real friend I have ever had or will ever have. I consider myself lucky to have had him in my life. There is no way that I'm going to smash my memories of him in order to use some part of my brain that's getting ignored. Anyway after much time it became a stalemate and I was done with him. Did I actually receive any help. Hmmmmm. Maybe a little tiny bit for other issues.
What would have really helped, IMO, was to have a one sided very close friend that was very understanding, very knowledgeable, actually interested in my problems, and would be able to draw from other real people's successes for the same thing I was seeking help for, maybe a kind of professional friend.
Human dolls seem to provide many lonely people comfort. I see robots and androids providing comfort to more and more lonely people in the future. But, that's just one area, although, it may help in other areas as well.
So, what do you think would actually help you? What you believe you need may not be what you actually want. However, what you want may be exactly what you need. Is it something you can investigate, research, and accomplish yourself since the professionals just seem to be stumbling around with guesses while experimenting on you?
I remember a psychotherapist that was working with me. I do not and will not take any drugs except for extreme injuries. So, he went in the direction of everything is a result of my actions and I need to take responsibility of the results of those actions while not being a victim. That's fine. But, then he wanted me to be angry at my father for whatever reason and hit his couch with a foam bat. I already know how to vent. That's not the issue. I wouldn't get angry at my father because he was my best friend until he died. He was probably the only real friend I have ever had or will ever have. I consider myself lucky to have had him in my life. There is no way that I'm going to smash my memories of him in order to use some part of my brain that's getting ignored. Anyway after much time it became a stalemate and I was done with him. Did I actually receive any help. Hmmmmm. Maybe a little tiny bit for other issues.
What would have really helped, IMO, was to have a one sided very close friend that was very understanding, very knowledgeable, actually interested in my problems, and would be able to draw from other real people's successes for the same thing I was seeking help for, maybe a kind of professional friend.
Human dolls seem to provide many lonely people comfort. I see robots and androids providing comfort to more and more lonely people in the future. But, that's just one area, although, it may help in other areas as well.
So, what do you think would actually help you? What you believe you need may not be what you actually want. However, what you want may be exactly what you need. Is it something you can investigate, research, and accomplish yourself since the professionals just seem to be stumbling around with guesses while experimenting on you?