Alonewith2cats
Well-known member
I thought this might be an interesting topic to explore because I have heard people talk about being afraid of getting hurt and being afraid to hurt someone else so they shy away from intimacy in relationships. I'm not saying you shouldn't be kind or smart about things if you see red flags but I think this fear causes hurt by itself. Here is my take on it.
I am not afraid of getting emotionally hurt. If I get hurt I'll recover and try again. The worse thing that will happen is I'll cry for a while. That's it. I'm not going to kill myself over it. I have 2 reasons for not being afraid. The first reason is that there is no such thing as safe love. You can only have safe sex. The second reason is what is the point of living if you can't feel alive (I'm aware that this is a quote from a James Bond movie)? So if there is no such thing as safe love and there is no point of living if you can't feel alive then it must be better to live somewhat dangerously. It has to be more painful to build a wall around you and not let anyone in because that is like prison. I find loneliness to be a type of prison. You're free to go anywhere and do what you want but you still feel sad and somehow trapped by the pain of it. That is much worse.
I am not afraid of getting emotionally hurt. If I get hurt I'll recover and try again. The worse thing that will happen is I'll cry for a while. That's it. I'm not going to kill myself over it. I have 2 reasons for not being afraid. The first reason is that there is no such thing as safe love. You can only have safe sex. The second reason is what is the point of living if you can't feel alive (I'm aware that this is a quote from a James Bond movie)? So if there is no such thing as safe love and there is no point of living if you can't feel alive then it must be better to live somewhat dangerously. It has to be more painful to build a wall around you and not let anyone in because that is like prison. I find loneliness to be a type of prison. You're free to go anywhere and do what you want but you still feel sad and somehow trapped by the pain of it. That is much worse.