Just wanted to go through my mentality as to why I don't look for a girlfriend / partner.
I've never been a very secure person, and I think that rubs off on my personal relations. I just always seem to think of excuses as to why I don't look.
Some excuses in the past were:
"I'm studying and I have no idea if I will get a job afterward, so I shouldn't look for someone".
Then there was:
"I'm looking for a job, and still living at home, so I shouldn't look for someone".
Now, I have a good job (for 4 months now) and I am slowly becoming more responsible, but I still seem to think:
"I shouldn't look yet, because I don't know how secure my job is. If I lose it, I don't know if I can get another. I should wait until I get some more months/years experience, so that I can get employed again if I'm dismissed. Then I can look for someone".
Am I being unreasonable in thinking this way?
Will I continue making excuses?
Usually I am a very rational, logical person, but I cannot seem to figure out why I am so unsure of myself. I know that my greatest fear is failing and letting people down, which has an effect on why I am thinking this way. It's just hard to break out of this line of thinking.
I've never been a very secure person, and I think that rubs off on my personal relations. I just always seem to think of excuses as to why I don't look.
Some excuses in the past were:
"I'm studying and I have no idea if I will get a job afterward, so I shouldn't look for someone".
Then there was:
"I'm looking for a job, and still living at home, so I shouldn't look for someone".
Now, I have a good job (for 4 months now) and I am slowly becoming more responsible, but I still seem to think:
"I shouldn't look yet, because I don't know how secure my job is. If I lose it, I don't know if I can get another. I should wait until I get some more months/years experience, so that I can get employed again if I'm dismissed. Then I can look for someone".
Am I being unreasonable in thinking this way?
Will I continue making excuses?
Usually I am a very rational, logical person, but I cannot seem to figure out why I am so unsure of myself. I know that my greatest fear is failing and letting people down, which has an effect on why I am thinking this way. It's just hard to break out of this line of thinking.