well, this is the second time something like this happens, and the first time I screwed up and cut off all contact with that person, this time I would like to make it right, I need advice please:
a couple of years ago I met this really nice, supersmart super funny guy (really really not my type, either physically either because I felt he was a bit on the dependent side, little did I know how much) and we hit it off beautifully, met a few times, chatted spontaneously almost every day, the third time I started worrying a bit because he brought me a present (we only met twice before), then he started commenting on every single post I ever made on Facebook, and I had other people write me: do you have a new boyfriend or something?
The climax arrived when *he* invited some common friends at *my* place for dinner, at that point I just said that we needed to take some distance from each other, then he started writing long letters about his life, and kept commenting on each single post - I cancelled him from my Facebook friends, and he started following me around at parties, like a shadow, at that point I had to be firm and stop talking to him altogether, but that was a pity because we had a lot in common and I really enjoyed his conversation and I miss it to this day.
Now I feel like this is happening again: another really smart, interesting guy met through common friends who had a spot of bad luck recently so we were chatting for a few times on Facebook about personal things, and yesterday we met in person for the first time and it was really nice, but after the meeting I received 4 long messages including pictures of himself, and today the count is up to 7, and I feel that there is some mistake and he is thinking there is a romantic interest and a) if I had to decide now I would say no, this guy is an artist, very interesting spirit, but my feeling is that he doesn't have his honeysuckle together b) after knowing a person, I can come to like them even if they are not my type physically (and this is vastly the case with this guy) because of their personality, but I can't have a romantic interest if i don't know a person and this behavior is bringing me a lot of anxiety.
How do I keep a distance without hurting this guy? I let him know that I have a boyfriend? (we never spoke about those things, argh, my fb profile says 'single') or simply don't answer that much to his messages? (haven't answered yet, and the chat is off so he can't see me). This guy looks less crazy than the first one, maybe he will get the hint.
Now he is liking all (45?) my profile pictures on Facebook, this is even getting embarrassing.
Am I exaggerating? Maybe that's me, but I find such showering of attention after one meeting very very unappealing, even if George Clooney did it I would think what is wrong with him. Although I am sure George Clooney would send less words and more roses
How do I get out of this like a lady?
a couple of years ago I met this really nice, supersmart super funny guy (really really not my type, either physically either because I felt he was a bit on the dependent side, little did I know how much) and we hit it off beautifully, met a few times, chatted spontaneously almost every day, the third time I started worrying a bit because he brought me a present (we only met twice before), then he started commenting on every single post I ever made on Facebook, and I had other people write me: do you have a new boyfriend or something?
The climax arrived when *he* invited some common friends at *my* place for dinner, at that point I just said that we needed to take some distance from each other, then he started writing long letters about his life, and kept commenting on each single post - I cancelled him from my Facebook friends, and he started following me around at parties, like a shadow, at that point I had to be firm and stop talking to him altogether, but that was a pity because we had a lot in common and I really enjoyed his conversation and I miss it to this day.
Now I feel like this is happening again: another really smart, interesting guy met through common friends who had a spot of bad luck recently so we were chatting for a few times on Facebook about personal things, and yesterday we met in person for the first time and it was really nice, but after the meeting I received 4 long messages including pictures of himself, and today the count is up to 7, and I feel that there is some mistake and he is thinking there is a romantic interest and a) if I had to decide now I would say no, this guy is an artist, very interesting spirit, but my feeling is that he doesn't have his honeysuckle together b) after knowing a person, I can come to like them even if they are not my type physically (and this is vastly the case with this guy) because of their personality, but I can't have a romantic interest if i don't know a person and this behavior is bringing me a lot of anxiety.
How do I keep a distance without hurting this guy? I let him know that I have a boyfriend? (we never spoke about those things, argh, my fb profile says 'single') or simply don't answer that much to his messages? (haven't answered yet, and the chat is off so he can't see me). This guy looks less crazy than the first one, maybe he will get the hint.
Now he is liking all (45?) my profile pictures on Facebook, this is even getting embarrassing.
Am I exaggerating? Maybe that's me, but I find such showering of attention after one meeting very very unappealing, even if George Clooney did it I would think what is wrong with him. Although I am sure George Clooney would send less words and more roses
How do I get out of this like a lady?