Recent content by Marginal

This 'locus of control' thing is new to me, having worked in non profits my whole adult life. Looks like my world view is similar, only turned inward. I don't believe in fate, I believe in personal responsibility...which, after almost 40 years of making decisions big and small, weigh a ton. But...

you are too!!!

Since I'm new here, I thought I'd take a terrifying leap. I was recently told I look like a younger Mrs. Claus. As in Mrs. Santa Claus. Am still not sure how to take that... I think this is going to be really embarrassing tomorrow. If I can figure out how to post...hmmmm, does this one work?

In my experience, this is rarely the case. Most of the good men were found and married by good women. Good women find men. But I'm not a good woman. I guess I'm trying to say I hear you. And like someone said earlier, a lot of women feel the same way. Or at least I do.

Hello to all! And thanks for your welcomes. They're really encouraging...and make the steps not so treacherous.

I wish I was lovable. I also often wish for death. Because I wish life wasn't so hard.

I have similar feelings and thoughts all the time. I spend too much time alone, trying to find a new perspective. Instead it's a loop of anger, shame, loneliness, anger shame, loneliness. Locked in that never ending cycle. Sometimes a kind word can help. Sometimes a good night's sleep. I'm so...

I think culture doesn't matter so much as values...which I don't think need to be defined by culture. I value loyalty, kindness, genuineness. If someone outside of my culture values those things above all, I'd date him.

Many thanks for your well wishes. (One step)

Hi. The other day a handsome young man of around 23 asked me if I wanted to have coffee. I was immediately flustered and said, "To talk about [what I do for a living]?" He said yes. I offered him my card. Then I though my heart was going to pound out of my chest. Is this kid asking me out? Why...