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I think what you've said really speaks to my loneliness in particular, and something I came to realize over time. It isn't true for all people, but its certainly true for some of us. And I think for at least the two of us, loneliness is something deeper than just not being surrounded by other...

Is it necessary to feel embarrassed about it? I suppose it depends on whether you WANT to eat out alone. I'm married. I have kids. I love eating out with all of them, and my wife and I always have things to talk about... but sometimes, I also want to eat alone, be alone with my thoughts...

I've seen people find authentic friends here, though some people post here so that other people can help them understand their loneliness. And loneliness means different things to different people. Some people feel extremely lonely because they don't have a spouse or they don't have friends or...

Let me preface this comment with the fact that I have a wonderful wife with two great kids, so the apparently "negative" things I say about romance shouldn't be construed as bitterness from me. I first came to this forum because I've always felt an "existential" loneliness, rather than an...

There's a good chance you are excessively reading into--- and over analyzing--- the discussions you've been having with her. I know when you are lonely, its easy to concentrate and parse not only every word that a person has spoken, but also to parse every word that YOU'VE spoken. "When I used...

I really sympathize with this. My first sexual encounter was really unsettling, too. I was always told that--- as a male--- sex was something I should always just want. That something was wrong with me if every sexual encounter wasn't like a beer advertisement. I was maybe 14 when it...

I come from a family of nihilists and scientific materialists. No afterlife, no essence to consciousness beyond the atoms that make it up, etc. It has given us all "moments" wondering what the meaning of it all it, but we've all gotten past it and found satisfaction and happiness in life, even...

I felt this way when I first went off to college. In fact, I continued to feel this way most of the way through college. I was made to live on campus, too. The strange thing is I'm a really outgoing, gregarious person with a full paid scholarship and 0 problems socializing. But for some...

Yes, someone who feels "persistent, overwhelming loneliness while surrounded by friends and family" is someone with problems, but I don't think that applies to anyone here. Having it enter your life at times at unexpected moments is another. I think Delldonne's expression "existential...

Reading through these forums, I see a common theme. In relationships, the very act of "trying hard" to make a relationship happen in and of itself foils any actual attempt at success. It reminds me of the story about the millipede who never thinks twice about how easily he coordinates all of...

Wow, I wanted to reply to this so many times before I even got to the end. Yes, when I'm alone, I feel like I'm at peace. I remember right before college, I earned a scholarship, part of which sent me backpacking through the mountains for a month without returning to civilization. I went with...

Thanks! I've found that writing to my daughters is therapeutic in a way for me, too. I starting writing to my eldest the day she was born, when her mother and I were going through a lot of grief. She was 1 pound, and was likely going to die. We'd been waiting for her for so many lonely...

Lonely Panda and Danielle, thanks for speaking up. I've never really told anyone about this, and its good to know other people experience this too... I think what made me look for this message board was seeing a certain part of myself in my daughter. She's only a toddler, but I see her...

Yes, I think this is exactly how I'm starting to understand it. In some ways, its how you understand how you are feeling that matters, not whether you get rid of those emotions. My relationships aren't a curse. They aren't the cause of any problems, and I adore them and in many ways they...

Well that's the thing, I don't know how to feel about that sense of "loneliness". It's not something I'm sure I wish would be gone, the same way that someone who has loved and lost would wish for those memories to be purged from their mind. I think a lot of people look at their loneliness and...

I think it would be a good thing if we all knew our expiration date. When you don't, its always so easy to imagine that there is more time in the future, and thereby easier to put off the things that should be important to us. Ironically, I think it would also make death more pleasant. You'd...

This is only my second post here on these forums. I don't remember what exactly brought me here, but when I ran into this little corner of the internet, something was so compelling about it. I thought it might help me to understand my strange loneliness. Strange, because I've always had a...

1. This is my first post here on these forums, and this seemed like a meaningful thread. "What about me?" I believed in the myth of "finding that one person" and that all we would do one day is look in each other's eyes, swooningly, and never gaze elsewhere. "Happily ever after" with that...