I'm a recent graduate, looking for work and simultaneously studying to prepare for an alternative career path (I'm not in love with my field... why I stuck with through the entire degree is a long story...). Being unemployed can be depressing, but I've been doing well for a few months - working hard every day towards my goals, staying positive and taking joy in little bits of life... but this past week this has somehow all flew to pieces.
It all started when my roommates began waking me up again. I live with a guy and a girl who are a couple. The girl gets up for work at 5am, and while she doesn't do anything especially noisy, my bedroom is only separated by a flimsy wall from the bathroom, and just the noise of taps and shower is enough to wake me up. When it's just the girl up, her morning preparations are sometimes enough to wake me up and sometimes not. However, sometimes they both get up - the guy is self-employed and occasionally gets the idea that he could get more done by starting earlier in the AM. With both of them stomping around and turning taps on and off, it's that much worse, especially when they decide to keep the bathroom door open the whole time. This goes on for about 30 minutes, and I end up just lying in my bed feeling angry and powerless, and unable to go back to sleep after. I can't afford my own place, and probably won't for at least another year. I can't even sleep with earplugs anymore because I overused them during my university years and now get bad itchy-ear allergic reactions. Yesterday I was so tired that I collapsed into my bed for a long nap in the afternoon. An hour later, a man came to our house - he kept ringing the doorbell and banging on the door until I got up to answer. It turned out that he was looking for our neighbours, and only to buy some crap. It made me so angry to see how smug and happy he looked about obviously waking me up.
Then other problems piled up on this lack of sleep. I drank too much coffee throught the week to stay awake - enough to trigger mood swings and more sleep problems. I didn't have the energy to cook healthy meals. I got much less work done than normal, which triggered guilt and the emotional eating of chocolate. Bad feelings and damaged attention span made me "get stuck" in browsing the Internet. I was too tired to go to the gym, and when I went once, I hurt my knee, which has an old injury that comes and goes, but limits my activities more and more over time, making me very anxious. All these are problems I had in the past, but was able to keep under control with some effort. On top of that, someone just insulted me for being unemployed - sort of implying that I'm not good enough to deserve a decent job.
Now I just feel like a useless, fat, lazy slug - so powerless and out of control. How can I climb out of this state?
It all started when my roommates began waking me up again. I live with a guy and a girl who are a couple. The girl gets up for work at 5am, and while she doesn't do anything especially noisy, my bedroom is only separated by a flimsy wall from the bathroom, and just the noise of taps and shower is enough to wake me up. When it's just the girl up, her morning preparations are sometimes enough to wake me up and sometimes not. However, sometimes they both get up - the guy is self-employed and occasionally gets the idea that he could get more done by starting earlier in the AM. With both of them stomping around and turning taps on and off, it's that much worse, especially when they decide to keep the bathroom door open the whole time. This goes on for about 30 minutes, and I end up just lying in my bed feeling angry and powerless, and unable to go back to sleep after. I can't afford my own place, and probably won't for at least another year. I can't even sleep with earplugs anymore because I overused them during my university years and now get bad itchy-ear allergic reactions. Yesterday I was so tired that I collapsed into my bed for a long nap in the afternoon. An hour later, a man came to our house - he kept ringing the doorbell and banging on the door until I got up to answer. It turned out that he was looking for our neighbours, and only to buy some crap. It made me so angry to see how smug and happy he looked about obviously waking me up.
Then other problems piled up on this lack of sleep. I drank too much coffee throught the week to stay awake - enough to trigger mood swings and more sleep problems. I didn't have the energy to cook healthy meals. I got much less work done than normal, which triggered guilt and the emotional eating of chocolate. Bad feelings and damaged attention span made me "get stuck" in browsing the Internet. I was too tired to go to the gym, and when I went once, I hurt my knee, which has an old injury that comes and goes, but limits my activities more and more over time, making me very anxious. All these are problems I had in the past, but was able to keep under control with some effort. On top of that, someone just insulted me for being unemployed - sort of implying that I'm not good enough to deserve a decent job.
Now I just feel like a useless, fat, lazy slug - so powerless and out of control. How can I climb out of this state?