LadyDaria
Well-known member
- Joined
- Feb 17, 2014
- Messages
- 153
- Reaction score
- 0
So I have a friend. She is 10 years younger than me. Two years ago she graduated from school and turned her mind to getting married. No boyfriend mind you. See her parents are obsessed with her getting married and weirdly.... instead of rebelling she felt pressure to do so.
She is not ugly but certainly not Angelena Jolie.
So, within 6 months of that she had a boyfriend, within 2 months of that, she was talking engagement and within a year... she was engaged. I was stunned. This was the first time I was every privy to the "making of a wife". She set her mind to finding a guy and getting married like she was buying a new TV and it happened.
I thought to myself... see, this is how you do it. This is what I am missing. The desire/// pressure /// mental force to make marriage a reality. My parents were always very accepting of me doing whatever I wanted on to on this and so... I think I defaulted to nothing and still see "dating" as somehow beneath me.
It isn't like buying a new TV because I could be rejected but... my friend.. basically seemed to not care... and saw that as the cost of doing business, but of course, given how I think her mind was made up... no one rejected her. In fact, it seemed like the passion she had for this made them even more interested in her.
I post this as an example of maybe what we are doing wrong... though It is extremely hard for me to get motivated.
She is not ugly but certainly not Angelena Jolie.
So, within 6 months of that she had a boyfriend, within 2 months of that, she was talking engagement and within a year... she was engaged. I was stunned. This was the first time I was every privy to the "making of a wife". She set her mind to finding a guy and getting married like she was buying a new TV and it happened.
I thought to myself... see, this is how you do it. This is what I am missing. The desire/// pressure /// mental force to make marriage a reality. My parents were always very accepting of me doing whatever I wanted on to on this and so... I think I defaulted to nothing and still see "dating" as somehow beneath me.
It isn't like buying a new TV because I could be rejected but... my friend.. basically seemed to not care... and saw that as the cost of doing business, but of course, given how I think her mind was made up... no one rejected her. In fact, it seemed like the passion she had for this made them even more interested in her.
I post this as an example of maybe what we are doing wrong... though It is extremely hard for me to get motivated.