JustSomeGal said:First relationship...
In the beginning I felt great. He put a lot of emphasis on reminding me how I "saved" him, and how he loved spending time with me. There were a few moments where I should have ran fast, but I always felt good being there and serving a purpose to him (I was really selfish and just wanted to be something to someone).
It took me 3 years to realize it was unhealthy. Even after being hit physically and emotionally, and realizing he wouldn't stick around for his kids. Lots of mistakes.
Tealeaf said:Lukewarm feelings... incredibly pushy guy... awkward moments with religious family... firsts are way overrated.
NeverSunset said:My first real relationship was a happy one, we been together for almost 4 years. My life was happy, but now I'm become anti-social, and well, being an anti social makes you sad, and lonely, but the more you think about it the more you will avoid anyone. The paranoid feelings is there, and it's haunting me. Perhaps the reason why I've been like this now is because of my break up with her. I had everything I needed with her and we broke up because she went to study overseas, and I did too, in separate country(Australia and Netherlands). Then I did something really stupid that made her hates me for life, and now she won't even look or talk at me, she'd rather slam the door in front of my face than to talk to me. Guess I deserve it.
Blossomforth said:i've never been in a relationship before. social anxiety mixed with low self esteem kinda does that to oneself. i've had my share of crushes and dates, but nothing really stuck for me.
ladyforsaken said:But I hung on. For 5 years. Because in my head, when you love someone, you stick to them through thick and thin. I was blinded by the fact that those rough moments were not something anyone should stick to, whether you love the other person or not, I should not have allowed myself to go through with it.
It was a learning experience at least. A tough one.
ardour said:ladyforsaken said:But I hung on. For 5 years. Because in my head, when you love someone, you stick to them through thick and thin. I was blinded by the fact that those rough moments were not something anyone should stick to, whether you love the other person or not, I should not have allowed myself to go through with it.
It was a learning experience at least. A tough one.
sorry you had to have a 5 year long learning experience.
Blossomforth said:i've never been in a relationship before. social anxiety mixed with low self esteem kinda does that to oneself. i've had my share of crushes and dates, but nothing really stuck for me.
daddymack said:Blossomforth said:i've never been in a relationship before. social anxiety mixed with low self esteem kinda does that to oneself. i've had my share of crushes and dates, but nothing really stuck for me.
social anxiety and low self esteem has nothing to with it... your not the only in one in the world who suffers from it, people still have relationship through it all.... its not that hard... just speak up.... they have all type of dating sites... all type of places where people can nicely be social you have clubs where no one judges you because their all there to have fun you cant use the excuse " i feel ugly " nowadays people like ugly people anywayz
daddymack said:social anxiety and low self esteem has nothing to with it... your not the only in one in the world who suffers from it, people still have relationship through it all.... its not that hard... just speak up.... they have all type of dating sites... all type of places where people can nicely be social you have clubs where no one judges you because their all there to have fun you cant use the excuse " i feel ugly " nowadays people like ugly people anywayz
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