Update: Never mind. Everyone else's problems are way more important. Feel free to read if your bored though.
Everyday is a repeat of the day before. I use the computer which takes up a good chunk of my day, then play video games,watch tv and read. Those things are fine but they don't take up enough of my day so I just lay around bored and lonely. I do talk to people on skype but it doesn't last long. I don't have much in common with most of my contacts so almost all conversations are short or ignored. 5+ hour time difference with almost everyone on my list doesn't help either. There is one person that I really can relate to that I met on a penpal site but he has better and more important things to do than to sign in so I'll be lucky if he signs in once every 3 weeks. Every time I find someone I really connect with they are either too busy for me, they disappear or things go fine for a while then suddenly I am erased from their friend list without a word. It already happened over four times. Starting at 12 years old, I've been into all sorts of social sites. Myspace, facebook, twitter, roleplaying sites, penpal sites, played a few mmorpgs for years. Sure I made a lot of acquaintances for a little while but it never lasted. Everyone found better things to do and better people to talk with.
I could handle being lonely if I had very time consuming stuff to distract me from my loneliness but I don't. I'm currently looking for a job, went on a few interviews that I think went well but I know they aren't going to call back which is a bummer. If I only had a job and no friends I would be okay because at least I would have some purpose in life. I'm starting to think everything has already been decided for us. Everyone is like "Oh you can shape your own destiny." but that's not true. It's already been decided. What your lifestyle will be like, what kind of job you have, what friends you'll have, all decided. Some of us can try to stray from our destined path and some of us will succeed but most of us will fail. Regardless of how far you stray from the path and how much you wish it wasn't so you'll just end up back on it regardless of what you do. That doesn't mean I'll give up though because I have nothing else to do, might as well keep going but I know it's futile. Looking back at everything, not a lot in this world matters. I guess I should be content as long as I have my basic needs met (food, water, shelter) and asking for anything else is greedy. Everyone is going to leave eventually. They HAVE to either by dying or walking away everyone has to leave.
I've learned to ignore my loneliness and have been doing it almost all my life but lately it's been getting harder and harder to ignore so some advice would be useful. Please don't give me advice like "Go out and meet people" because I tried and that isn't possible. I live in New York and almost everyone there acts the same in order to blend in and not get left behind. There really isn't much need to go outside. I don't have money or anyone to hang out with. Taking walks would be pointless as well. Everywhere very interesting requires a car or taking a bus to get to. Walking around the neighborhood there isn't nothing much except apartment buildings, a junior high school with an empty playground, Rite Aid, Walgreens, Subways, an "outdated" library, Post Office and a shopping center that mainly caters to the needs of the elderly and working adults. The mall has a lotto store, a gift card store, a shoe store, Key food, Rainbow, outlet store, wig store, hair/nail salon, hardware store, 1 restaurant I won't eat at in fear I might jeopardize my health, and a chinese food restaurant. I've been to the mall many times and it doesn't have a lot that interests me. My mom and big sister usually makes me go out with them twice a week but it's not to anywhere fun or vaguely interesting and there is no getting out of it. What to do? Should I just try harder to ignore my loneliness or find a way to put myself into a more semi conscious state to the point nothing will faze me and I can go through life completely uncaring and oblivious to what happens to me and what happens around me? Any helpful advice would be appreciated. I don't care if it's harsh as long as it is helpful. I have a mother who is nothing but harsh. It's fine if you think this thread is idiotic because I kinda think so too.
Everyday is a repeat of the day before. I use the computer which takes up a good chunk of my day, then play video games,watch tv and read. Those things are fine but they don't take up enough of my day so I just lay around bored and lonely. I do talk to people on skype but it doesn't last long. I don't have much in common with most of my contacts so almost all conversations are short or ignored. 5+ hour time difference with almost everyone on my list doesn't help either. There is one person that I really can relate to that I met on a penpal site but he has better and more important things to do than to sign in so I'll be lucky if he signs in once every 3 weeks. Every time I find someone I really connect with they are either too busy for me, they disappear or things go fine for a while then suddenly I am erased from their friend list without a word. It already happened over four times. Starting at 12 years old, I've been into all sorts of social sites. Myspace, facebook, twitter, roleplaying sites, penpal sites, played a few mmorpgs for years. Sure I made a lot of acquaintances for a little while but it never lasted. Everyone found better things to do and better people to talk with.
I could handle being lonely if I had very time consuming stuff to distract me from my loneliness but I don't. I'm currently looking for a job, went on a few interviews that I think went well but I know they aren't going to call back which is a bummer. If I only had a job and no friends I would be okay because at least I would have some purpose in life. I'm starting to think everything has already been decided for us. Everyone is like "Oh you can shape your own destiny." but that's not true. It's already been decided. What your lifestyle will be like, what kind of job you have, what friends you'll have, all decided. Some of us can try to stray from our destined path and some of us will succeed but most of us will fail. Regardless of how far you stray from the path and how much you wish it wasn't so you'll just end up back on it regardless of what you do. That doesn't mean I'll give up though because I have nothing else to do, might as well keep going but I know it's futile. Looking back at everything, not a lot in this world matters. I guess I should be content as long as I have my basic needs met (food, water, shelter) and asking for anything else is greedy. Everyone is going to leave eventually. They HAVE to either by dying or walking away everyone has to leave.
I've learned to ignore my loneliness and have been doing it almost all my life but lately it's been getting harder and harder to ignore so some advice would be useful. Please don't give me advice like "Go out and meet people" because I tried and that isn't possible. I live in New York and almost everyone there acts the same in order to blend in and not get left behind. There really isn't much need to go outside. I don't have money or anyone to hang out with. Taking walks would be pointless as well. Everywhere very interesting requires a car or taking a bus to get to. Walking around the neighborhood there isn't nothing much except apartment buildings, a junior high school with an empty playground, Rite Aid, Walgreens, Subways, an "outdated" library, Post Office and a shopping center that mainly caters to the needs of the elderly and working adults. The mall has a lotto store, a gift card store, a shoe store, Key food, Rainbow, outlet store, wig store, hair/nail salon, hardware store, 1 restaurant I won't eat at in fear I might jeopardize my health, and a chinese food restaurant. I've been to the mall many times and it doesn't have a lot that interests me. My mom and big sister usually makes me go out with them twice a week but it's not to anywhere fun or vaguely interesting and there is no getting out of it. What to do? Should I just try harder to ignore my loneliness or find a way to put myself into a more semi conscious state to the point nothing will faze me and I can go through life completely uncaring and oblivious to what happens to me and what happens around me? Any helpful advice would be appreciated. I don't care if it's harsh as long as it is helpful. I have a mother who is nothing but harsh. It's fine if you think this thread is idiotic because I kinda think so too.