zero said:From my experience, yes, you can.
(Reversing the question: Can a person be unhappy, if he has many/good friends? My answer stays the same.)
Clearly said person may have been on the other side of the fence for quite a few years...soresoul said:It's a two way street either way. Yeah you have the people saying such honeysuckle as "you can't blame anyone but yourself. It's all on you etc" but clearly said person is not on the other side of fence.
TheRealCallie said:Clearly said person may have been on the other side of the fence for quite a few years...soresoul said:It's a two way street either way. Yeah you have the people saying such honeysuckle as "you can't blame anyone but yourself. It's all on you etc" but clearly said person is not on the other side of fence.
Don't knock a person's advice when you have no idea what they have or have not been through.
I would lean towards this view for most people.ardour said:It would be difficult for the majority of people to be happy in a complete absence of friends/close family. We evolved as social groups after all, it's the reason for language, culture, etc. I think Chomsky's research into linguistics indicates that language is part of cognitive hardwiring. There's plenty of evidence that the lonely suffer a higher incidence of mental illness and die earlier. Obviously there are exceptions that prefer isolation, others with bad enough experiences to avoid friendships. Generally: not really.
ardour said:It would be difficult for the majority of people to be happy in a complete absence of friends/close family. We evolved as social groups after all, it's the reason for language, culture, etc. I think Chomsky's research into linguistics indicates that language is part of cognitive hardwiring. There's plenty of evidence that the lonely suffer a higher incidence of mental illness and die earlier. Obviously there are exceptions that prefer isolation, others with bad enough experiences to avoid friendships. Generally: not really.
ardour said:It would be difficult for the majority of people to be happy in a complete absence of friends/close family. We evolved as social groups after all, it's the reason for language, culture, etc. I think Chomsky's research into linguistics indicates that language is part of cognitive hardwiring. There's plenty of evidence that the lonely suffer a higher incidence of mental illness and die earlier. Obviously there are exceptions that prefer isolation, others with bad enough experiences to avoid friendships. Generally: not really.
bearcat22 said:Don't listen to any slap=happy crapola about how it's up to you whether or not you are happy. They will
say some horse manure like:
You can do anything with the right attitude! Just choose to be happy.
This is a vicious evil LIE.
Jessicat said:bearcat22 said:Don't listen to any slap=happy crapola about how it's up to you whether or not you are happy. They will
say some horse manure like:
You can do anything with the right attitude! Just choose to be happy.
This is a vicious evil LIE.
Yes.. This is so true.
It’s very insulting when someone assumes that all I have to do to change things in my life is to be positive. Think there wouldn’t be so many unhappy people around if that was the case. Being positive helps, I can agree to that. However, my honeysuckle still exists even if I’m smiling or not.
Most of the times I choose to be positive. But it’s still there!
lol.
Ahh.. I need a coffee so bad.
Unfortunately everyone likes a chuckle headTheRealCallie said:Jessicat said:bearcat22 said:Don't listen to any slap=happy crapola about how it's up to you whether or not you are happy. They will
say some horse manure like:
You can do anything with the right attitude! Just choose to be happy.
This is a vicious evil LIE.
Yes.. This is so true.
It’s very insulting when someone assumes that all I have to do to change things in my life is to be positive. Think there wouldn’t be so many unhappy people around if that was the case. Being positive helps, I can agree to that. However, my honeysuckle still exists even if I’m smiling or not.
Most of the times I choose to be positive. But it’s still there!
lol.
Ahh.. I need a coffee so bad.
Just simply smiling doesn't make you have a more positive outlook. It takes more than that. It's like when people ask you how you are and you say fine, but are you really? No, of course not.
You can just as easily tell yourself something and not mean it deep down where it really counts. THAT is what you have to change, which is NOT an easy thing to do. Simple, yes. Easy, no.
That's where people seem to be confused. Having a simple plan does not mean that things will be easy to accomplish. Some simple plans are the hardest things you will ever do in your life.
Fake it til you make it doesn't work for everything. Faking it can help for the harder things, but usually not if you aren't willing to put in the extremely hard work that it takes to "make it."