Nyktimos
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I can't trust most women to be faithful (or men, but then I don't need to). I can't believe a person can treat sex casually when they are not involved with someone (in other words, when there seems no clear moral reason not to), but then switch it off and become sexually responsible, resisting all temptations, when they become involved. That is not how I see the human brain operating.
I would love to think that all of this is just my paranoia, and certainly a lot of it is, but it also fits with most of the people I know who have no concern about faithfulness beyond whether they are likely to get caught. Many would tell you they love their girlfriends/wives, but they still get their ends away at every opportunity. Many of the women I've known are the same, this being the 21st century. Those people don't concern me, though, as much as the ones who appear to be interested in being faithful, perhaps even believe they can be, but probably couldn't resist real temptation.
From the discussions I've read on ALL, it seems a far higher percentage of the people here are strict about their behaviour, and dismayed by the way their friends and peers act. My question is this; are we more likely to be lonely because we are looking for a partner we can trust, in a world where people can't be trusted? Are we too insecure to act like those around us, and so console ourselves with the belief we have a moral superiority? Am I imaginaing all of this, and it's just my paranoia and neuroses at fault?
I would love to think that all of this is just my paranoia, and certainly a lot of it is, but it also fits with most of the people I know who have no concern about faithfulness beyond whether they are likely to get caught. Many would tell you they love their girlfriends/wives, but they still get their ends away at every opportunity. Many of the women I've known are the same, this being the 21st century. Those people don't concern me, though, as much as the ones who appear to be interested in being faithful, perhaps even believe they can be, but probably couldn't resist real temptation.
From the discussions I've read on ALL, it seems a far higher percentage of the people here are strict about their behaviour, and dismayed by the way their friends and peers act. My question is this; are we more likely to be lonely because we are looking for a partner we can trust, in a world where people can't be trusted? Are we too insecure to act like those around us, and so console ourselves with the belief we have a moral superiority? Am I imaginaing all of this, and it's just my paranoia and neuroses at fault?