All I seem to get is a friend and nothing more

[African_weasel]

I honestly decided that there is something wrong with me. Every time I ask female out, I'm always just a friend and nothing more. I thought about changing myself for the person I like even. I probably have to anyways, I could just learn how to not be happy with myself for awhile and revert back gradually so it doesn't shock them. Everything I do gets me nowhere it seems. It's funny how I talked about this in another thread.

 

[theglasscell]

It happens to every one. I've had that plenty of times. There's nothing wrong with being friends with a girl if they'd make a good friend.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Happens to me all the time. I just value their friendship.

 

[murmi97]

I thought about changing myself for the person I like even.

This is the only way that you should change yourself; http://www.alonelylife.com/showthread.php?tid=28797

 

[African_weasel]

It happens to every one. I've had that plenty of times. There's nothing wrong with being friends with a girl if they'd make a good friend.

I've been friends with plenty of girls. It's just the ones I want to date.

 

[seanski]

I thought about changing myself for the person I like even.

This is the only way that you should change yourself; http://www.alonelylife.com/showthread.php?tid=28797

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don't worry....and don't appear desperate....you will meet the rightb person when u least expect it..sean x

 

[African_weasel]

How come I meet the right person I still get the same result? I really wish someone was in my room that day when this guy tried to get me to buy drugs from him over the internet. And had something to do during the weekend. I mean just read this thread.
http://www.alonelylife.com/showthread.php?tid=28729

 

[Sterling]

Honestly, don't change yourself to someone else's liking. Just be the "best" version of you.

 

[Coeur]

If you were incompatible in the first place and "change," you're going to be incompatible again when you revert back no matter how gradual. You'll just have more to lose.

 

[ardour]

If you were incompatible in the first place and "change," you're going to be incompatible again when you revert back no matter how gradual.

THAT^^^
You can't make someone want you.

On the bright side, if they genuinely want to be friends it means you're not an odious person. I would take it as a compliment.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Honestly, don't change yourself to someone else's liking. Just be the "best" version of you.

I like this. I'm going to quote you in my sig.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Honestly, don't change yourself to someone else's liking. Just be the "best" version of you.

This is great advice.

 

[Solivagant]

Honestly, don't change yourself to someone else's liking. Just be the "best" version of you.

If you were incompatible in the first place and "change," you're going to be incompatible again when you revert back no matter how gradual. You'll just have more to lose.

^ Exactly!

 

[African_weasel]

Yet, this person ever took the time to actually hang out with me with her free time

 

[VanillaCreme]

Yet, this person ever took the time to actually hang out with me with her free time

And she doesn't have to. If you ask to hang out with her, she has the choice to accept or to refuse. If she's clearly not interested, and has given you no inkling of ever being, then perhaps you should move on.

 

[African_weasel]

I wasn't trying to get at that, no one rarely hangs out with me anyway. I don't even have a car, it's hard not having a car in the south.