There's a girl named Kara. She's an acquaintance of some of my friends and attends some of our parties. However, I have never actually "met" her. Well, anyhow, about a week or more ago I started talking to her and getting to know her. She was a tad bit shy at first and didn't say much, but she soon started being very "girly" and silly and jokey and texting me a lot. Typical girlish flirting, no need to explain all that. Other than that, we would text each other back and forth. The subject of what we like to do/ hopes and ambitions/ all that stuff would come up and we really started getting to know each other. I complimented her a few times and showed interest in her aspirations. She would also compliment me too telling me things like I was sweet and what not. Things were looking pretty good for at least a flirty friendship to arise if anything. Things were going great, actually.
I started looking for maybe an indicator of interest from her to give me the go-ahead to maybe schedule a date or something. I started seeing her interest by the fact how if I failed to text her very soon or at all, she'd feel as though i was bored and she'd start a new subject or get upset with me. It was obvious she wanted to keep our discussions going, and made a huge deal out of saying hello and goodbye to one another when we went to sleep or first woke up. This helped build my confidence with her and so I asked her the other day if she'd like to hang sometime before she leaves for her beach house this summer (she stays there all summer). She said she'd love to =]
I took her out to a nice restaurant in town today and we started conversation very easily. We kept eye contact whenever we spoke though it would trail off occasionally, and listened to each other. However...Though at first it was shy girly-guyish flirting (luckily it wasnt akward at all), the discussion soon averted to more "friendly" discussion, or so it seemed to me (maybe im just a lil unconfident). We sort of gossiped about friends and other people. Told lots of stories. Especially drinking stories and experiences at the beach and travelling. We talked briefly about the things that would help us get to know each other better and all that stuff for a bit, but that didn't really seem to be the main discussion. It was like 50% getting to know each other, and the rest being us cracking corny jokes, telling stories, and gossiping, almost like friends...
I've been in the friend zone before, and I was getting the vibe from time to time.
However, beside from everything else, the TWO things that make me think she see's me as a friend more than anything else, is the fact she kept talking about her ex, Morgan, that she dated for a long time. She lost her virginity to him (She didn't tell me that, but she probably knows that I know). I subtly told her she was talking about him a lot...She said: "sorry, but most of my stories im telling seem to involve him too...sorry". And I wasn't offended and didn't give the impression that I was, but I did let her know she was speaking about him a lot. She seemed to overall drop him out of conversation mostly, though he came up about once or so, briefly.
And the second thing...While we were out, there's a guy in our town who all the girls love. Kinda the town "hottie". His name's Adam, and he was texting her all the while we were out. Everytime she opened her phone (which was about 7 times or so the whole 2 hours we spent together) she would say how annoying he was being and was making fun of him. I could sorta tell a part of her WAS annoyed, but was flattered he was showing interest in her, especially since he has a gf, at the same time. Also told me how he was saying dirty things to her and was like "yeah he has a gf...lol". Idk...
She also kept talking about how spoiled she is by her Dad and gets everything she wants...
However beside from all that, after lunch, I asked if she wanted to just walk around town and told me she didn't care. She didn't seem to be in a rush to leave at all. If anything, IIIII was =[ She seemed like she wanted to keep hanging out but Idk...After walking around for about 15 minutes I told her goodbye and that I had to get home.
What do you think? Am I just a friend? Was she trying to subtly tell me that she wasn't interested? Is she just kinda complicated? Is she just careful with guys ever since her ******* boyfriend? What the hell's going on you think?
The girl's beautiful. She really is. It's just I'm having trouble seeing what's goin on under the surface here.
I started looking for maybe an indicator of interest from her to give me the go-ahead to maybe schedule a date or something. I started seeing her interest by the fact how if I failed to text her very soon or at all, she'd feel as though i was bored and she'd start a new subject or get upset with me. It was obvious she wanted to keep our discussions going, and made a huge deal out of saying hello and goodbye to one another when we went to sleep or first woke up. This helped build my confidence with her and so I asked her the other day if she'd like to hang sometime before she leaves for her beach house this summer (she stays there all summer). She said she'd love to =]
I took her out to a nice restaurant in town today and we started conversation very easily. We kept eye contact whenever we spoke though it would trail off occasionally, and listened to each other. However...Though at first it was shy girly-guyish flirting (luckily it wasnt akward at all), the discussion soon averted to more "friendly" discussion, or so it seemed to me (maybe im just a lil unconfident). We sort of gossiped about friends and other people. Told lots of stories. Especially drinking stories and experiences at the beach and travelling. We talked briefly about the things that would help us get to know each other better and all that stuff for a bit, but that didn't really seem to be the main discussion. It was like 50% getting to know each other, and the rest being us cracking corny jokes, telling stories, and gossiping, almost like friends...
I've been in the friend zone before, and I was getting the vibe from time to time.
However, beside from everything else, the TWO things that make me think she see's me as a friend more than anything else, is the fact she kept talking about her ex, Morgan, that she dated for a long time. She lost her virginity to him (She didn't tell me that, but she probably knows that I know). I subtly told her she was talking about him a lot...She said: "sorry, but most of my stories im telling seem to involve him too...sorry". And I wasn't offended and didn't give the impression that I was, but I did let her know she was speaking about him a lot. She seemed to overall drop him out of conversation mostly, though he came up about once or so, briefly.
And the second thing...While we were out, there's a guy in our town who all the girls love. Kinda the town "hottie". His name's Adam, and he was texting her all the while we were out. Everytime she opened her phone (which was about 7 times or so the whole 2 hours we spent together) she would say how annoying he was being and was making fun of him. I could sorta tell a part of her WAS annoyed, but was flattered he was showing interest in her, especially since he has a gf, at the same time. Also told me how he was saying dirty things to her and was like "yeah he has a gf...lol". Idk...
She also kept talking about how spoiled she is by her Dad and gets everything she wants...
However beside from all that, after lunch, I asked if she wanted to just walk around town and told me she didn't care. She didn't seem to be in a rush to leave at all. If anything, IIIII was =[ She seemed like she wanted to keep hanging out but Idk...After walking around for about 15 minutes I told her goodbye and that I had to get home.
What do you think? Am I just a friend? Was she trying to subtly tell me that she wasn't interested? Is she just kinda complicated? Is she just careful with guys ever since her ******* boyfriend? What the hell's going on you think?
The girl's beautiful. She really is. It's just I'm having trouble seeing what's goin on under the surface here.