You're not alone as you can add me to this list. I'm a virgin who has never officially dated, never had a girlfriend, nor ever been kissed by a girl. The reactions I've had from others in my life whom I've told and have done these things themselves have been...comical to say the least.
All of my close friends know about it, and respect it, which I appreciate.
My coworkers and women I've just started talking to as friends, however...
Well, at one point I told quite a few guys at work about this in the last few months. One of them was complaining about how he'd gone so long without having sex.
"You know how long it's been since I've had sex? Since 2007!" He bemoaned as the conversation became more drawn out.
My, admittedly, pretentious reply (meant more as teasing): "You think THAT'S a long time?"
So, that's when he asked me how long it had been since I've done it, in which I told him, "since 1987, the year I was born." They connected the dots, but not before asking me the all-important "are you a virgin?" question, to which I unabashedly and unashamedly said, "Yes."
Que the tension as mouths hung open at something none of them had ever expected from...whatever Don Juan/sex maniac they thought I was supposed to be. From what I read and hear from other people who admit to being virgins to their peers, I was expecting laughter and ridicule, but I guess the stern "I'm 6'1, 205 pounds, I dare you to make fun of me..." eyes I stared at them with kept them from doing anything but expressing their bewilderment.
"How could you have gone so long without it?" "How come you've never had it?" All of the questions to which I don't have concrete answers to. The giggles only started when they knew I wasn't going to throttle them for making them. I don't really care, it doesn't bother me. Though, through the giggles they would say things like, "Oh, well...that's cool, man! That's cool!", like I somehow needed to hear them encourage me on something I was supposed to be depressed about.
I combated their ridicule and condescension with honesty. "Yeah, I'm a 25-year-old virgin, and don't really care. You don't have to feel sorry for me. It is what it is."
What gets to me more is that other coworkers try to set me up with girls at work just to "lose it". What is virginity anyway, a disease? I assured them that I was not attracted to these girls that they were attracted to, and got heck for it. "Why not?! What are you, chicken/gay?" Sorry, I'm just not genuinely attracted to somebody I just met, know nothing about, and have no emotional connection with, which I told them. I'll admit, it's been tough in my life to pursue a relationship. I've tried before and been rejected. That doesn't mean I'll settle with the first person willing to be intimate with me either...
A lot of my new-found female friends have humorous reactions to this too. They, like my male coworkers, are shocked to hear about my girlfriend-less virginity, and wonder at how a guy like me (whatever "like me" means) is still single. I just laugh every time I hear it, because I feel the irony in the statement. It's just kind of like, "and...here I am, a 25-year-old virgin..."
Like I said, it's not really a problem for me being of that relationship status and experience level. If something happens in the future, and I find someone I like, it happens.