LadyDaria
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All I have left of my immediate family is my brother. And the non immediate family, cousins etc. Any every single one of them is bad for me.
My brother is the worst. As a child he is probably the biggest reason for any self esteem issues. But as an adult we all decided that we should be friends for the sakes of the families... but, I just can't stand it any longer. He is just so useless as a brother. He does nothing for me. Nothing. So I don't see the point of him. In March I moved into a new place and not only didn't he help me move, but I had to nag him to see the place. When he arrived I was with a contractor and he acted like I should drop everything and talk to him. He should have just waited.
We share a home we are landlords of. This is my entire inheritance. But until we sell it, it is always at risk. I have been hinting I want to sell but he won't. For one reason..he has junk car in the garage. That he is too lazy to move. But last night the renter's called to say the heater wasn't working. He says "you want to go over there?" Um -- what? When did I get my heater degree. No I don't know anything about heaters. It is so typical. You didn't want to sell, YOU go over there. Another reason I want to sell is that house is the only thing tying me to him and I want that cord cut.
He has a son who is a good kid but, I don't think i am ever going to be close with. I always envisioned that I would have a relationship with his kid but I never envisioned how my brother would poison any kids perception of me. First, my brother has never allowed me to be alone with him. Take him anyplace... second, I am pretty sure he has poisoned his son with lies about me (supported by the fact he won't let his son alone with me) Third, he is turning a good kid into a little nut like him. He teaches his son to be a nut, playing video games all the time, doing dangerous things, being rude.
Whenever we go or do anything it is always on His terms. He controls the show. 100%. Every x-mas I am allowed over there (mostly for presents) but it is his food, his time, his friends. Last x-mas he invited some people over -- his friends -- and I stole the show, the woman actually saying she didn't know I was so funny. And suddenly, they (and I) have to go. I have asked a few times if his son wanted to go to an event where I work (were I would have friends and influence) and he never responds.
I mean shouldn't a sibling relationship be a give and take? I don't see what he ads to my life at all.
So another source of tension is that he thinks I should be friendly with my cousins. And I really try. But unfortunately for me... they are all undesirable people. I am sorry I have tried. I have a 5 cousin family and they are all quasi criminals or scammers. What is amazing is that they don't even get what embarrassments they are... but even if I could get past that... what would we have to talk about? What is amazing is that also, they don't see what freaks they are. And, like my brother, seem to think when they say, jump I should say "how high?"
The worst part is that I try in every-way to divorce these people from my life. They invite me to things... I say no... I don't tell them where I live.. but, they just keep trying. Getting my e-mail from my brother -- facebook friending me (even when I decline several times) basically what I find missing from them is mostly concern about me. They want to e-mail me because they want someone to go to a concert with, they want to facebook friend me because they want more friends.
I just wish I had a normal supportive family. If I can get my brother to sell the house I think I will leave the area. I think that is the problem. They are in the area and that is what keeps them all interested in using me.
It is just so depressing to have a family of people that don't really care about you and or, or not people worth caring about. Anyone relate?
My brother is the worst. As a child he is probably the biggest reason for any self esteem issues. But as an adult we all decided that we should be friends for the sakes of the families... but, I just can't stand it any longer. He is just so useless as a brother. He does nothing for me. Nothing. So I don't see the point of him. In March I moved into a new place and not only didn't he help me move, but I had to nag him to see the place. When he arrived I was with a contractor and he acted like I should drop everything and talk to him. He should have just waited.
We share a home we are landlords of. This is my entire inheritance. But until we sell it, it is always at risk. I have been hinting I want to sell but he won't. For one reason..he has junk car in the garage. That he is too lazy to move. But last night the renter's called to say the heater wasn't working. He says "you want to go over there?" Um -- what? When did I get my heater degree. No I don't know anything about heaters. It is so typical. You didn't want to sell, YOU go over there. Another reason I want to sell is that house is the only thing tying me to him and I want that cord cut.
He has a son who is a good kid but, I don't think i am ever going to be close with. I always envisioned that I would have a relationship with his kid but I never envisioned how my brother would poison any kids perception of me. First, my brother has never allowed me to be alone with him. Take him anyplace... second, I am pretty sure he has poisoned his son with lies about me (supported by the fact he won't let his son alone with me) Third, he is turning a good kid into a little nut like him. He teaches his son to be a nut, playing video games all the time, doing dangerous things, being rude.
Whenever we go or do anything it is always on His terms. He controls the show. 100%. Every x-mas I am allowed over there (mostly for presents) but it is his food, his time, his friends. Last x-mas he invited some people over -- his friends -- and I stole the show, the woman actually saying she didn't know I was so funny. And suddenly, they (and I) have to go. I have asked a few times if his son wanted to go to an event where I work (were I would have friends and influence) and he never responds.
I mean shouldn't a sibling relationship be a give and take? I don't see what he ads to my life at all.
So another source of tension is that he thinks I should be friendly with my cousins. And I really try. But unfortunately for me... they are all undesirable people. I am sorry I have tried. I have a 5 cousin family and they are all quasi criminals or scammers. What is amazing is that they don't even get what embarrassments they are... but even if I could get past that... what would we have to talk about? What is amazing is that also, they don't see what freaks they are. And, like my brother, seem to think when they say, jump I should say "how high?"
The worst part is that I try in every-way to divorce these people from my life. They invite me to things... I say no... I don't tell them where I live.. but, they just keep trying. Getting my e-mail from my brother -- facebook friending me (even when I decline several times) basically what I find missing from them is mostly concern about me. They want to e-mail me because they want someone to go to a concert with, they want to facebook friend me because they want more friends.
I just wish I had a normal supportive family. If I can get my brother to sell the house I think I will leave the area. I think that is the problem. They are in the area and that is what keeps them all interested in using me.
It is just so depressing to have a family of people that don't really care about you and or, or not people worth caring about. Anyone relate?