mmm...Maybe try self help books or google on the subject.
One of the books i have is " reclaiming your selfesteem"...Striaght up. lol
There's good readings in there...but there's also worksheets or suggestion.
Steps or actions you can take to change your life and have good self esteem.
yeah...get out of the house more often.
You adjusted to the cave. I pretty much isolate myself for almost a year.
Being around people gave me the creeps or all kinds of crap ran through my head...(negative honeysuckle.)
It's a process ....it took me a week to just make it to the park. (2 blocks from my house...lol)
I had to make myself sit there for hours. Eventaully I was able to jog and ride my bike around the park.
Eventaully i was able to return to work...the first couple of weeks i felt like I was going to throw up being around people.
Eventaully I was able to flirt with the women..lol
Eventaully I was able to attend meetings...Sit in a room full of people and say whatever the hell it is that's bothering me.
Eventaully i was able to talk to people one on one about my personal issues..such as my sponsor.
Eventaully there's 2 **** women given me the beat down and confront me straight up on my problems.
They made me fucken cried like a fucken baby....tearing down my walls...lol
I'm a guy....the bad boy type. Freaken 2 babes making me cried, ******* up my honeysuckle, and getting me to open up...lmao
But it's okay....if I can experince that...it's healing . Another paradox...it increase myself esteem or reduces my shyness.
I had to get out of my comfortzone (as comfortiable as it maybe...it's not healthy).
It felt like i was going to die at first...lol The sunlight burnt my **** skin..( I turned in a vampair...lmao)
An analogy...it's sort of like taking the first step into a hot tube....At first you're like....ouch !!!
But once you get in the tub...you're like yeah...feels good.
Kind of like SEX...
sometimes when she bites at first...you're like Ouch !!!!...but feels good...lmao
Anyway...being able to laugh at myself and not take everythig so seriously all the time is good
medician or rasing my self esteem. It's a paradox...once i can laugh at myself...it's healing
and almost self forgiveness.
Once i can laugh at myself, well...fresia, I'm not beating up on myself anymore and
i don't worry too much what people thinks about me anymore = good selfesteem.
What people thinks about me is none of my bussiness anywho...
It a process and it just takes practice.
if I allowed myself to laugh at myself...Heck i can surely allow myself to be happy.
Give myself permission to be happy. Building blocks....ya know what I'm saying.