hoffy said:
Parabolani said:
Doubt The Rabbit said:
In response to the OP, why would we be able to analyze your love for big girls?
I like girls, fat or skinny, depends on what I'm wanting at the time, and also, the girl in question. You having a preference for fat girls is like me having a preference for girls with B-cup boobs and asking "why" implies that there's something wrong or it's a preference that needs to be second-guessed. I like B-cup girls, just because I do, and don't really care to have my brain picked as to why that is. In that same way, "why" you like fat girls is not only irrelevant, it's a silly thing to be spending time pondering about. An appreciation for something need not always have an explanation behind it; we have preferences for specific types of girls because we are given the freedom and selection to do so. That is all.
Well after reading 'Doubt the rabbit's' response it seams there is no point expressing our feelings or voicing our opinions so let's just sit here and say nothing.
Regardless what DTR says, I think it's perfectly fine for you to ask the questions you did. Plus I'm sure there are big girls on here or to come that will read this thread and maybe feel a bit better about themselves. I think big/curvy girls are far more sexy than ones who are skinny as hell. A curvy woman looks just like that, like a woman. I'm not saying skinny girls aren't pretty, just not my preference.
Well, in the bigger picture, no, there is no real point in voicing our opinions except for the need to be validated and to share one's opinions with the world in hopes that someone may convert their beliefs in one's own favor.
Is that a bad thing? Not necessarily, but it's also not necessary. Why do we do it? Because we have the freedom to.
Furthermore, judging by OP's comment to my post, you must have misunderstood the entire point of my post. What I spoke upon was the analyzing of one's personal preference. Had I not said that - had I said something along the lines of your preference for fat girls being related to an unhealthy attraction towards your mother, would it have changed the way you feel about fat girls? Probably not, in fact, it would have probably offended you. The answer is not that one should keep their opinions to themselves - hell, shout them out from Mt. Everest if it so pleases you, but feeling there is a need to ask "WHY" you do something is leaving room to believe there is something potentially wrong with it. Expressing one's own opinion and questioning it, by definition, are two entirely different things. Sometimes, it just "is."
Sure, fat women may feel as though threads like this give them some hope. Well, to begin with, someone who feels they need to be given "hope" should first think about why they feel "hopeless." There are plenty of men who prefer women who are size twelve and up. Why should women who fill a pair of size 26 jeans feel hopeless when there's whole societies of men who like fat girls? Possibly because of low self-esteem. then, the blame should not be put on others or the media, but on the girl in question. The only solution there is to change one's body or change one's frame of mind.
However, skinny girls may not feel so keen to threads like these. The "BBW" movement is one that is spreading far and wide. In fact, "full-figured" women are currently so popular that they are making the media and the fashion industry. Personally, I believe that it's all a bunch of hogwash. Fat, skinny - a woman is a woman. To say that "full-figured" women look more like "women" is ridiculous. I believe any woman with mammary glands and a vagina looks like a woman. Additionally, any man with a nice ass and long hair looks like a woman (from behind).
All this self-serving bullshit about what a woman should or shouldn't look like is designed to make women from one demographic or another feel better about THEMSELVES. If you need to play up fat women, or skinny women, or full-figured women, or average women, or SSBBW women to feel better about YOURSELF, then your self-esteem is only fleeting because it does not come from within. No, instead, it comes from putting down other women behind a thinly-veiled
"Not that fat/skinny/average women aren't pretty..." passive-aggressiveness.
Do you know what's pretty? Any woman who puts time and effort into courting a man (or woman, even), be it through appearance, talent, personality, or a combination of the three.
HOWEVER, that does not mean one can't have his or her own preferences in women. What may appeal to one may not appeal to the other. I have preferences, and I don't need to give some bullshit reason to validate them. I like a certain type of woman - not because she looks more womanly, not because it's anti-media, not because she resembles my mother or sister or aunt or cousin, not because someone told me to - I have my preferences because I DO. However, my preferences are only subjective within the scope of reason that, on the grand scale of things, NO woman is better than the other.
And that is why analyzing - read: ANALYZING, not EXPRESSING - something as trivial as preferences can be a very wasted pastime.
