omarlittle
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I've been sort of a quiet, reserved guy most of my life. If I'm with a group of people, I'd only speak up to talk if I was actually confident with what I was about to say. I'd always worry about embarrassing myself with something I say. I'd also prefer to be by myself sometimes rather than with a group of people. I consider myself more of a thinker than a talker, which hasn't always helped me in my life.
So recently, as part of an effort to improve my life, I decided that enough was enough...I'm gonna try and be more vocal by engaging myself more in conversations with people, asking more questions at work, starting up small talk with random people, saying "yes" more and just generally being more outgoing and less scared of the repercussions.
And even though sometimes I do make progress with this, most often I end up just reverting back to my old ways instead of this new outgoing person that I'm trying to be.
So thats making me wonder...is it really possible for someone to change? Especially when it comes to changing something about yourself as big as this. I mean, for 23 years, I've been this guy...but now I wanna change. Is this even possible? Or has it already been programmed in my head to act a certain way as a default. Or is it just a long process that takes a long time?
Because this is something I want to change about myself but I'm having trouble doing so.
So recently, as part of an effort to improve my life, I decided that enough was enough...I'm gonna try and be more vocal by engaging myself more in conversations with people, asking more questions at work, starting up small talk with random people, saying "yes" more and just generally being more outgoing and less scared of the repercussions.
And even though sometimes I do make progress with this, most often I end up just reverting back to my old ways instead of this new outgoing person that I'm trying to be.
So thats making me wonder...is it really possible for someone to change? Especially when it comes to changing something about yourself as big as this. I mean, for 23 years, I've been this guy...but now I wanna change. Is this even possible? Or has it already been programmed in my head to act a certain way as a default. Or is it just a long process that takes a long time?
Because this is something I want to change about myself but I'm having trouble doing so.