Can you imagine NEVER spending a night alone?

[viewpoint123]

I was FLOORED when I ran into a woman in her late 70's. She runs a fence crew and has for decades. She made the statement "I've never spent an evening alone in my whole life". (She had asked how I was coping with my husband's death.)

I am 45 and I have spent the better part of 12 years living on my own. It never, never, occured to me there are people who have never spent a day alone. I guess it can happen. If you marry and leave your parents house and your spouse doesn't travel, why would you ever be alone. She said if her husband wasn't around, her sister or sister in law were around.

I thought, what a blessed way to live. I never imagined that. Have you? I guess that way of living is more normal than my situation. I have felt so much more alone after hearing her statement.

 

[A new life]

Nights alone are easy.
Being around people in the daytime who act like they can't even see me is the hard part.

 

[Darkness]

Being around people in the daytime who act like they can't even see me is the hard part.

I so know how you feel on that one!

 

[Limlim]

I think I'd go insane if I couldn't go a single night without any space to myself.

 

[Bread]

I can't quite get my mind around the concept. I do realize I'd appreciate time for myself, being somewhat of a recluse...but the thought of always having someone around, just can't quite manage to produce the mental image, been alone for so long.

 

[WishingWell]

Viewpoint123,

No way of life is "normal"--just different. I used to be afraid to spend the night alone, until I had to years ago, when I had no choice but to get my own apartment. I thought I'd die! Especially, over night. I got used to it though, and as you can see, I am very alive.

Now, I am living with my Mom. I love her very much, but when she goes out, I welcome the time alone to do what I want, and when I want to do it!

 

[I'm Fine]

Can I imagine NEVER spending a night alone? Yes. I've been married for nearly 13 years and, apart from odd times, I haven't spent a night alone. I can imagine it, I just don't necessarily want to (but we won't go into that).

What I WANTED to say (and side-tracked myself) is that just because society tells us that we have to be in a relationship in order to be fulfilled as a person (or normal) doesn't mean it's true. Society has a lot to answer for, in my opinion (but that's probably just my bitterness talking). Sorry.

 

[A new life]

Can I imagine NEVER spending a night alone? Yes. I've been married for nearly 13 years and, apart from odd times, I haven't spent a night alone. I can imagine it, I just don't necessarily want to (but we won't go into that).

What I WANTED to say (and side-tracked myself) is that just because society tells us that we have to be in a relationship in order to be fulfilled as a person (or normal) doesn't mean it's true. Society has a lot to answer for, in my opinion (but that's probably just my bitterness talking). Sorry.

ABOUT YOUR SIGNATURE
The author Robert Ringer talked about
"The sustinance of a positive attitude, through the assumption of a negative result"
Basically he was saying that things go wrong (and often!) so once you acknowledge this fact, the mishaps of life don't hit you so hard.

 

[sagasu]

Yeah I'd feel pretty **** smothered. At least need a breather every week or so to get in some good porno time.

 

[butterfly91]

i would like that... *wistful*

 

[Sci-Fi]

I enjoy the time alone sometimes, that's what scares me about getting into a relationship and having a family, that's all gone. Having time to yourself is a yesteryear thought.

 

[IgnoredOne]

I would hate not having a bed to stretch out on sometime!