I don't want to go into a lot of details but I used to be super good friends with a guy named Shon when were in high school. We stopped being friends about this time three years ago over a small fight and some miscommunication, which I will admit is mostly my fault. He was my date to my senior prom, we had a ball at my senior homecoming, and he was nice enough to take me out for lunch at a buffet we have here. Long story short, he had feelings for me and at the time, I was in a really up and down relationship with my now ex-boyfriend, who I now wish I didn't invest even a second of time into but you live and you learn I guess. My friend Shon really wanted us to eventually be more than friends but there was just so much going on at the time and I can admit I wasn't being a very good friend towards the end.
So it turned into he and I exchanging really mean remarks on facebook and after that, we didn't talk for a few months. I was really upset about what happened so I called and apologized to him after trying and getting hung up on repeatedly for a few weeks. Things were getting better for awhile with rekindling our friendship and I felt great but it didn't last long. I was going through crap at home ended up being homeless and we lost contact for a few months. When things were straightened out on my end, I tried getting back in touch with him to see how things were. After a while, I noticed that he seemed to not want to talk and would always tell me to call him later each time I tried to talk to him so eventually, I just stopped trying and I have not seen or talked to him since.
Since then, I have seen where he's said he regrets meeting me and even went as far as making a rumor saying I did sexual things with him, which I swear never happened. All in all, I regret everything that happened and I wish were still friends but I know that the friendship is long over with. I know getting back in touch is not a good idea either so I've left the idea alone. This experience has taught me that I need to be more cautious of how I treat my friends and others as well. I still feel very bad to this day and seeing some pictures of him has not helped one bit.
I've been very depressed over it for a long time. I only have about five close friends now and we rarely see each other or hang out since everyone is working and trying to find their way. Am I a bad person for what I did? That's what my mind keeps telling me. I guess the saying is true that we don't know what we have until it's gone.
So it turned into he and I exchanging really mean remarks on facebook and after that, we didn't talk for a few months. I was really upset about what happened so I called and apologized to him after trying and getting hung up on repeatedly for a few weeks. Things were getting better for awhile with rekindling our friendship and I felt great but it didn't last long. I was going through crap at home ended up being homeless and we lost contact for a few months. When things were straightened out on my end, I tried getting back in touch with him to see how things were. After a while, I noticed that he seemed to not want to talk and would always tell me to call him later each time I tried to talk to him so eventually, I just stopped trying and I have not seen or talked to him since.
Since then, I have seen where he's said he regrets meeting me and even went as far as making a rumor saying I did sexual things with him, which I swear never happened. All in all, I regret everything that happened and I wish were still friends but I know that the friendship is long over with. I know getting back in touch is not a good idea either so I've left the idea alone. This experience has taught me that I need to be more cautious of how I treat my friends and others as well. I still feel very bad to this day and seeing some pictures of him has not helped one bit.
I've been very depressed over it for a long time. I only have about five close friends now and we rarely see each other or hang out since everyone is working and trying to find their way. Am I a bad person for what I did? That's what my mind keeps telling me. I guess the saying is true that we don't know what we have until it's gone.