islandgirl808
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Hi everyone
I'm a newbie here, and this is my first post. I take great comfort in reading all of your stories because it shows me that I am not alone in my...loneliness.
The big issue I am dealing with right now has to do with a coworker I've known for almost 10 years, and is someone whom I considered to be a friend. We've gone through a lot together, both personally and professionally. However, it seems as though I am always the shoulder to cry on, and the one who's always there to lend an ear. Her...not so much. She seems to pick and choose when she wants to be friends. One day she'll be all buddy-buddy with me, and the next...out of the blue...she stops speaking to me. Since I am one of those people who always wants to know the truth, I ask her what's up...did I say or do anything to offend her? Her response is usually, "I don't know what you're talking about. You're being paranoid." Then continues to ignore me.
I must add that I think she's a rather unhappy person in general. She does nothing but complain and talk down about others (like we're back in middle school). It's exhausting. I would like to just come to work...do my job...and leave. I know that most of my coworkers are just that... Coworkers and not lifelong buddies. But it's SO hard coming in to work every day with that awful "vibe" hanging around. I should also say that I am nit the only one she treats poorly. She has a reputation for being negative and having a bad temper.
Logically, I know I just need to cut her loose and realize that she does not want to be friends with me (which kinda hurts after all these years). She frequently mentions coworkers as "these are people I work with and nothing more". Now I'm thinking she was including me in that group.
Does anyone have any advice on how to make things easier for me? If she was someone I could just ask, and know she'd tell me the truth, that would be great. It would hurt, but I could move on. This passive-aggressive thing is draining.
Sorry this is so long. Thank you all for listening.
I'm a newbie here, and this is my first post. I take great comfort in reading all of your stories because it shows me that I am not alone in my...loneliness.
The big issue I am dealing with right now has to do with a coworker I've known for almost 10 years, and is someone whom I considered to be a friend. We've gone through a lot together, both personally and professionally. However, it seems as though I am always the shoulder to cry on, and the one who's always there to lend an ear. Her...not so much. She seems to pick and choose when she wants to be friends. One day she'll be all buddy-buddy with me, and the next...out of the blue...she stops speaking to me. Since I am one of those people who always wants to know the truth, I ask her what's up...did I say or do anything to offend her? Her response is usually, "I don't know what you're talking about. You're being paranoid." Then continues to ignore me.
I must add that I think she's a rather unhappy person in general. She does nothing but complain and talk down about others (like we're back in middle school). It's exhausting. I would like to just come to work...do my job...and leave. I know that most of my coworkers are just that... Coworkers and not lifelong buddies. But it's SO hard coming in to work every day with that awful "vibe" hanging around. I should also say that I am nit the only one she treats poorly. She has a reputation for being negative and having a bad temper.
Logically, I know I just need to cut her loose and realize that she does not want to be friends with me (which kinda hurts after all these years). She frequently mentions coworkers as "these are people I work with and nothing more". Now I'm thinking she was including me in that group.
Does anyone have any advice on how to make things easier for me? If she was someone I could just ask, and know she'd tell me the truth, that would be great. It would hurt, but I could move on. This passive-aggressive thing is draining.
Sorry this is so long. Thank you all for listening.