Delimma...

[Lonesome Crow]

Would you accept help from your
kid?

Something Ive struggling with.
My daughter had alway offer to
help me or us. But Im her parent.

She knows Im going throgh a tough
time even though i try to keep it
from her..

Things didnt work out according to
plans but my duaghter had always
wanted us near her to begin with.
She had been very patient and
was hoping to see things through.
She had offered us before to
make the move to be closer to her.
But her mother and I promise
that we should be parents...
Well..her mother broke a lot
of promisees to everyone...
It hasnt been easy for my daughter
either.

Im still trying to regroup.
Its going to take a while at the rate Im going. to get back on my feet again. I moved 6 times and burned
through all my money trying to make honeysuckle right...
Should I just swallow my pride?
Go be near my daughter
and take her offer of help.

My relationship with my duaghter is very important to me....

 

[IgnoredOne]

Making decisions on pride is vainglorious and foolish.

Do whatever that is practically the most sane to do, which only you can figure out. If emotions intervene, that is when a notebook and a pen come in useful, as they can tally down the plusses and negatives and avoid the perspective blindness effective that comes with trying to think about things with emotional attachment.

 

[VanillaCreme]

Well, being a daughter who has helped a parent, I'd say no. However, that's me. I didn't mind taking care of my mom.

 

[Sci-Fi]

Yes swallow your pride, though pride should have nothing to do with it. You can still keep your pride. She's offering help, and with it coming from your daughter I think that is just awesome of her to do. Shows she really cares about you.

 

[VanillaCreme]

Sci-Fi, it either shows that she really cares, or that she feels obligated.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

I dont feel or believe my daughter feels obligated to love me in anyway.
If anything...she could had told me to fresia off or go to hell from the moment I spoke to her for the first time in my life or her life.
She wants Truth and had asked for me. I told her the truth wherever the chip may fall.
I love my daughter very much and wish to give her peace and love in her life.
I wish not to be a burden on her nor bring anymore pains in her life

She loves me very much and wants me to relocate to be close to her.
Not live with her..but to be closer
to her so I can be there her in person
when she needs me, talk to me
or just hang out on a daily or
weekly basis.

Im only.a 3 hour drive away from her at the moment..but I cant make the move at the moment..cuasr I move crap loads of times already trying to
Save her mothers life..

 

[Limlim]

Isn't that what they were supposed to do traditionally anyway? People had kids so they'd have people to take care of them when they got older.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I dont feel or believe my daughter feels obligated to love me in anyway.

I didn't say obligated to love you. I mean obligated to help you. There's a difference. I will always love my mom, however, my time in helping her is over.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

My family have crazy traditions...
The dynamic of my family is
dysfuctional on overdrive.

I do know I have to be there
for her no matter what.
Its very deligate.

Money is not an issue for her. She just wants her real parents back.
Love and family means more to her.
Her adopted parents wanst very nice to her. She got toss out into the streets and disowned at a young age.
She alway felt she been alone her enitre life..

In so many ways she lived through a living hell of growing up in an alcoholic home as I did.

The unconditional love her mothr and i is what she needs and wants..
.