I'd use my real name and age, but I feel so humiliated that I don't wish for my expression of my problems to be associated with me. I don't want to give specifics as they may also identify me, but I'll try to clarify if I can.
If bad luck could be typified, I would be it. I exhausted most, if not all, other options before deciding to express my general problems here as I feel I should at least have a go at solving the problems myself and I've exhausted everything.
A bit of background context, not for a sympathy vote: I was the ******* (legal sense of the word) child in a meshed family, who had a violently abusive dad. He was an overly critical perfectionist who couldn't tolerate mistakes in a 6 year old kid, 'divorce' proceedings were the result and hopped from place to place with mother so no real synchronisation with life.
Low-esteem and social isolation were the result. I often got alienated from peers, got an (incompetent) doctor who diagnosed ADD, then ADHD, then Tourettes, then Autism then Aspergers, who clearly shifted the goalposts to fit whatever. It's actually frontal lobe 'disorder', the physical abuse of my dad damaged the front part of my brain (worth noting Autism has similarities to frontal lobe syndrome and dysexecutive syndrome).
Tried to excel in primary school, couldn't. Using my own treatment I improved, and in secondary school I initially excelled (topset in some cases) but got bullied to the point of suicide. Dropped out of school as teachers did nothing to help, GCSE grades suffered badly, then A-levels suffered badly (I couldn't get beyond a D) and as a result could only scrape through to a low-ranking university. Still socially alienated. Bullying caused me to feel terrified of travelling on buses or going anywhere near schoolkids.
University helped develop social skills, but ultimately got isolated from peer base. Did well first two years, then mysteriously failed due to a conspiracy of events in the final year (I'm now in debt and my degree is worthless).
Tried to get into work, spent nearly two years constantly searching with no result. Without specifying details of work role, turns out I'm obstentially slow and I can't improve this. Often criticised. Had abusive supervisor (would give keys to everyone else but demanded I not have them). After quitting and finding another job, I had nearly one criticism for every day I went in for 3+ weeks straight (some pedantic like how cups should be organised where organisation wasn't possible) to the point I was demoralised and didn't want to go in, of which I quit.
I tried to find like-minded individuals but I find they progressively just stop talking to me to the point I get stonewalled and this has been occurring for many years straight (real-life or online, whether a similar topic or not). I used to think people were problematic (they would ignore, then lie about ignoring, then stonewall) but I believe I must be doing something to drive them away but I have no idea what.
I've never had a relationship, not even beyond what is the 'first stage'. I'm realising that, this far in, it's too late to find anyone, because if I can't even maintain a friendship beyond a few months, even a year, how could I maintain a relationship? I barely meet anyone and I know the brick wall is I have this extremely unusual set of beliefs and knowledge which makes people 'glaze over'.
Everyone else in the family has their own house and their own kid. I actually have next to nothing (this laptop is borrowed and I'm living with parents). I've given up searching for work because it's so crushingly demoralising when I do obtain it. I either have to feel like I'm this lazy good-for-nothing failure or this slow-witted dimwit who gets constantly criticised working for incorrectly paid pocket change (something that will never realistically change my situation).
I'm utterly trapped and ruined. It's even more humiliating because the bullying didn't just ruin my self-esteem and social capabilities, but my grades in three levels of education and now my career, and thus any prospects of 'taking off'. I'm a 20,000 pound in debt socially isolated moron with three consecutive failures in education and no career prospects. I have an unassailable amount of resentment (I know I shouldn't) for others and my family members.
And the situation is just worsening. What if my mother opts to throw me out in irritation of my perceived laziness? I don't have any friends, where would I go? What would I do? I'm broke, my account is basically empty. I've done everything, searched for talents I could maybe capitalise upon (I have no unique skills or talents, I'm terrible at everything from singing and piano to computer modelling and art). Closest I got was to use my programming skills to sell a software product, but what? I have no ideas that I can reasonably produce that someone would actually want to buy.
I feel horribly screwed over, so horribly screwed over.
If bad luck could be typified, I would be it. I exhausted most, if not all, other options before deciding to express my general problems here as I feel I should at least have a go at solving the problems myself and I've exhausted everything.
A bit of background context, not for a sympathy vote: I was the ******* (legal sense of the word) child in a meshed family, who had a violently abusive dad. He was an overly critical perfectionist who couldn't tolerate mistakes in a 6 year old kid, 'divorce' proceedings were the result and hopped from place to place with mother so no real synchronisation with life.
Low-esteem and social isolation were the result. I often got alienated from peers, got an (incompetent) doctor who diagnosed ADD, then ADHD, then Tourettes, then Autism then Aspergers, who clearly shifted the goalposts to fit whatever. It's actually frontal lobe 'disorder', the physical abuse of my dad damaged the front part of my brain (worth noting Autism has similarities to frontal lobe syndrome and dysexecutive syndrome).
Tried to excel in primary school, couldn't. Using my own treatment I improved, and in secondary school I initially excelled (topset in some cases) but got bullied to the point of suicide. Dropped out of school as teachers did nothing to help, GCSE grades suffered badly, then A-levels suffered badly (I couldn't get beyond a D) and as a result could only scrape through to a low-ranking university. Still socially alienated. Bullying caused me to feel terrified of travelling on buses or going anywhere near schoolkids.
University helped develop social skills, but ultimately got isolated from peer base. Did well first two years, then mysteriously failed due to a conspiracy of events in the final year (I'm now in debt and my degree is worthless).
Tried to get into work, spent nearly two years constantly searching with no result. Without specifying details of work role, turns out I'm obstentially slow and I can't improve this. Often criticised. Had abusive supervisor (would give keys to everyone else but demanded I not have them). After quitting and finding another job, I had nearly one criticism for every day I went in for 3+ weeks straight (some pedantic like how cups should be organised where organisation wasn't possible) to the point I was demoralised and didn't want to go in, of which I quit.
I tried to find like-minded individuals but I find they progressively just stop talking to me to the point I get stonewalled and this has been occurring for many years straight (real-life or online, whether a similar topic or not). I used to think people were problematic (they would ignore, then lie about ignoring, then stonewall) but I believe I must be doing something to drive them away but I have no idea what.
I've never had a relationship, not even beyond what is the 'first stage'. I'm realising that, this far in, it's too late to find anyone, because if I can't even maintain a friendship beyond a few months, even a year, how could I maintain a relationship? I barely meet anyone and I know the brick wall is I have this extremely unusual set of beliefs and knowledge which makes people 'glaze over'.
Everyone else in the family has their own house and their own kid. I actually have next to nothing (this laptop is borrowed and I'm living with parents). I've given up searching for work because it's so crushingly demoralising when I do obtain it. I either have to feel like I'm this lazy good-for-nothing failure or this slow-witted dimwit who gets constantly criticised working for incorrectly paid pocket change (something that will never realistically change my situation).
I'm utterly trapped and ruined. It's even more humiliating because the bullying didn't just ruin my self-esteem and social capabilities, but my grades in three levels of education and now my career, and thus any prospects of 'taking off'. I'm a 20,000 pound in debt socially isolated moron with three consecutive failures in education and no career prospects. I have an unassailable amount of resentment (I know I shouldn't) for others and my family members.
And the situation is just worsening. What if my mother opts to throw me out in irritation of my perceived laziness? I don't have any friends, where would I go? What would I do? I'm broke, my account is basically empty. I've done everything, searched for talents I could maybe capitalise upon (I have no unique skills or talents, I'm terrible at everything from singing and piano to computer modelling and art). Closest I got was to use my programming skills to sell a software product, but what? I have no ideas that I can reasonably produce that someone would actually want to buy.
I feel horribly screwed over, so horribly screwed over.