The-One
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I've started at a new university, and unsurprisingly, within a short time cliques are forming and the group is norming and I will once again be relegated to the sidelines. (Though I'm not particularly bothered this time, cos this is only a 6 months course and I'm about to build a kick ass $$$ gaming pc )
The thing is, even basic things I have trouble with. Say sitting when there's a group of people. I find it difficult to know where I should sit, obsessively sitting next to just one person seems stalkerish. Yet if I do not, I end up drifting in random seating positions every time and do not end up forming a seating alliance with anyone. Which leads me to be ignored by everyone (as it happens i got stuck between 2 cliques this morning)
Of course, I could try sitting down first, except I am the leader of precisely nobody, then people would not sit with me, but around me, as an obstacle. Which presents me as an annoyance.
Or the example with walking with a group of people, I never feel comfortable walking with more than 1 person. I often end up getting shoved on to the roads with the cars instead or end up trailing behind or that I am stuck behind and between 2 people, neither of whom is giving me enough space walk alongside horizontally with either of them. I end up doggedly try to shove myself into this gap where I will never fit and try not to walk into the back of at least one person. Or say there's a lampost in the way and the group scatters, I then have trouble reforming into a group walking together, instead of trailing etc.
Again, I can't lead the group while walking somewhere because nobody listens to me. Eg, out of the group, I have the most superior local geographic knowledge (because I grew up here), so you'd think people might listen to me when they're hungry and I tell them where best to get food right? Nope, nobody listens to the guy who's lived here for most of his life and the entire group start to set off in random directions despite none of them knowing where they are going.
Although the details of these situations seen banal in the extreme, they cause me undue trouble and stress and I was wondering if any of you guys have trouble with things like this.
The thing is, even basic things I have trouble with. Say sitting when there's a group of people. I find it difficult to know where I should sit, obsessively sitting next to just one person seems stalkerish. Yet if I do not, I end up drifting in random seating positions every time and do not end up forming a seating alliance with anyone. Which leads me to be ignored by everyone (as it happens i got stuck between 2 cliques this morning)
Of course, I could try sitting down first, except I am the leader of precisely nobody, then people would not sit with me, but around me, as an obstacle. Which presents me as an annoyance.
Or the example with walking with a group of people, I never feel comfortable walking with more than 1 person. I often end up getting shoved on to the roads with the cars instead or end up trailing behind or that I am stuck behind and between 2 people, neither of whom is giving me enough space walk alongside horizontally with either of them. I end up doggedly try to shove myself into this gap where I will never fit and try not to walk into the back of at least one person. Or say there's a lampost in the way and the group scatters, I then have trouble reforming into a group walking together, instead of trailing etc.
Again, I can't lead the group while walking somewhere because nobody listens to me. Eg, out of the group, I have the most superior local geographic knowledge (because I grew up here), so you'd think people might listen to me when they're hungry and I tell them where best to get food right? Nope, nobody listens to the guy who's lived here for most of his life and the entire group start to set off in random directions despite none of them knowing where they are going.
Although the details of these situations seen banal in the extreme, they cause me undue trouble and stress and I was wondering if any of you guys have trouble with things like this.