thegreyman
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Until I became so socially anxious that I almost stopped communicating with people altogether, I always used to go 'the scenic route' in my attempts to make people like me.
My rationale was to make people dislike me in order to capture their attention. Then, over time, they'd get used to me and my quirks and that antipathy would gradually transmute into a familiarity and then a liking. Sometimes it would work. Now I'm too shy even to get the process started, and just being nice to people is a lousy way of trying to make friends because usually I come across as having no other discernible character traits other than being a nice person.
Disliking is definitely closer on the spectrum to liking than indifference is. If there's nothing that you can do to make a person notice you, they will probably never like you. But oftentimes old enemies will become friends.
I think that if I tried my usual technique of getting people to like me on this board, I'd be banned quite quickly and therefore unable to carry my plan through to fruition.
My rationale was to make people dislike me in order to capture their attention. Then, over time, they'd get used to me and my quirks and that antipathy would gradually transmute into a familiarity and then a liking. Sometimes it would work. Now I'm too shy even to get the process started, and just being nice to people is a lousy way of trying to make friends because usually I come across as having no other discernible character traits other than being a nice person.
Disliking is definitely closer on the spectrum to liking than indifference is. If there's nothing that you can do to make a person notice you, they will probably never like you. But oftentimes old enemies will become friends.
I think that if I tried my usual technique of getting people to like me on this board, I'd be banned quite quickly and therefore unable to carry my plan through to fruition.