Drinking alone

[matt4]

Lately, I've taken to drinking alcohol. Often to quite an excess alone.

Not many people want to talk to me. Even though I'm more confident then I have been. I'm finding it hard to socialise. I need a large circle of people to talk to which I just don't have.

Ultimately, I'd love a gf to share things with. Clearly impossible while I have psych problems at the moment

Does anyone find themselves drinking at home a lot too?

 

[TheRealCallie]

I've done it a few times. VERY few, like maybe 3 or 4 over the last 5 years (before that I didn't drink at all). BUT, my reasons for drinking alone are very different than yours, most likely.

That said, it's likely not a good idea to drink alone and excessively. Why do you drink alone? You say you are more confident, so why not go to a bar? If you are ALONE, you will never meet anyone. Whereas, if you go somewhere, at least you have the opportunity to meet people and maybe you won't drink as much.

Or, (and this is what I think you should do....my opinion only, of course) you could skip drinking entirely and find something more productive to do with your time. Take up a hobby, volunteer, do something that will put you out there around people.

 

[Tiina63]

I agree with the Real Callie-maybe you could go out a bit more and try to meet others. It sounds as though your drinking a lot is quite recent and it would really help you if you could stop drinking a lot now, before getting addicted to it. I am on my own and know the temptation of alcohol.

 

[Oldyoung]

Callie got it right.

Go to a bar or pub instead. There is a non-zero chance you will get to talk to people, and it's not good to use drugs to pass the time.

 

[constant stranger]

Yes, to the above comments. I drank alone every night for many years. The bottle can be a very pleasant companion and is a difficult habit to break. But drinking to get through the night, to fill the void of an otherwise unpleasant stretch of time.....the dark hours before passing out, closes so many doors in one's life. Besides, the side effects are dreadful.

 

[kamya]

I have a few gallons of really strong homemade wine. I suppose it could last me a few months of drunken nights. When I do drink, it is usually alone in my room. I don't know why. I like to stick to myself most of the time anyways so I guess it's no different than normal. The only difference is whether I'm drunk or not.

I don't do it too often though.

 

[Sometimes]

Please, please, please don't fall victim to the demon alcohol. No good will come of it, only pain.

 

[TheSkaFish]

I drink, but not alone. I can't really drink at home, that would be pretty awkward. But I do like to drink with friends, listen to music, and stop thinking about the things that get me sad. I hate to say it, but drinking gives me a break from it.

 

[ATimeBeing]

I used to get absolutely wasted alone. I used to just sit in the dark on my own (no tv, no music just me and the alcohol, and my thoughts of course) and drink myself into a state that felt like oblivion. I was depressed at the time and I'm sure this behaviour led to severe depression. Needless to say the habit of drinking to excess alone (or even in a social circle) is unhealthy for your mind, body and spirit.

 

[matt4]

I've managed to stay away from it a bit. These two weeks it has been largely social drinking shock horror!! I went to the pub, then Indian restaurant with university friends. Ended up drinking in Belgium, as usual. Then pub back in London with the people I'm learning French with. It's been a busy week. Lot's of socialising unusually for me so not much low time. I need lots of social time and am trying to put myself out there.

 

[Jafo]

When I drink alone I prefer to be by myself.

 

[matt4]

Nod, nod. It's usually been in my room away from everyone apart from this week. When I'm alone. I find myself thinking about so much negativity.

 

[Niantiel]

"In vino veritas."

"In wine, there is truth."


I drink alone most of the time, except for when I go to band practice.
Band practice usually results in us running through our set once or twice, and then spending the rest of the time reducing sobriety. My guitarist actually said to me once semi-jokingly while buzzed and high: "You know, one time, when we have practice, we should probably actually practice."

 

[Kid_A]

I used to drink alone when I was in high school, now I avoid it all together.
It just doesn't do anything for me. If I was with some good friends, I might but my good friends are far away and taken different paths in life.

 

[ardour]

Nothing wrong with drinking alone, as long as it's good beer, not the usual swill you guys drink.

 

[Kid_A]

Nothing wrong with drinking alone, as long as it's good beer, not the usual swill you guys drink.

I wouldn't consider Espresso Stout imported from Ireland 'swill'. The stuff I drank was comparable to 4 Pines Stout but better. I like to think I have a good taste for beer. I simply prefer the company of a friend, to me it makes the beer taste better.