user 16581
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I have a reasonable social life, and some friends (both male and female). I hang out with them, play video games, go to pubs etc with them. Generally I'm not that social, but I'm not a loner either. I've never been particularly skilled at social interaction; I'm always 'the weird one' of the group, although I don't particularly mind this. I find I can fit in, but it takes concious effort to conform to social expectations etc, it doesn't just come naturally.
I often spend long periods alone, and whereas 'normal' people would actively seek out social interaction, I'm quite happy on my own.
I find that I actually very rarely get lonely when I'm alone, the vast majority of the time I'm happy just living in my own little world. I found this website during a lonely moment, but they are few and far between.
I'm quite introverted, and although I do enjoy social interaction, I find too much draining because I can't fully relax with other people. In fact, when I go out with my friends, I know that I would be just as happy if I had just stayed at home alone, and at home I would have been able to relax and not have to think about social norms and expectations.
People often say that you should just be yourself, and not adhere to social norms to keep for the benefit of others. However I've found that just being myself entails very little or no interaction with other people. It's not that I dislike other people, I just have no need to be with them. This leaves me with a problem though: although I'm happy to be alone now, in the future I don't know if I will become more sociable. But by that time all my friends would have left. I would be a creepy loner. Once you have no social circle at all, particularly as you get older, it become much harder to make new acquaintances. One of the main reasons I continue to put time into my current friendships is so that I keep a foot in the door, as it were, to a social circle.
What I worry about most is being happily alone now, but then growing older to find than I have no support network. By then it might be too late to build up friendships.
I realise this is a website aimed at loneliness, but does anyone else find that they can happily spend long periods of time with no human contact (other than the cashier at the shop) and have no feelings of loneliness, or any desire for human company?
The maximum time I've spent without any human contact has only been a few weeks at a time, but I've found that after those few weeks I would actually have preferred to continue in solitude rather than have to deal with people.
Has any one tried living completely alone for months/years? Where you happy at the beginning, but then as time wore on began to miss people? Or did you just sort of separate off from the real world, and live happily in a bubble?
tl;dr I prefer to spend time alone than with people, but only very rarely get lonely. Am contemplating a life as a sort of hermit, not seeking out social interaction, not having friends etc. and being happy. Any thoughts?
I often spend long periods alone, and whereas 'normal' people would actively seek out social interaction, I'm quite happy on my own.
I find that I actually very rarely get lonely when I'm alone, the vast majority of the time I'm happy just living in my own little world. I found this website during a lonely moment, but they are few and far between.
I'm quite introverted, and although I do enjoy social interaction, I find too much draining because I can't fully relax with other people. In fact, when I go out with my friends, I know that I would be just as happy if I had just stayed at home alone, and at home I would have been able to relax and not have to think about social norms and expectations.
People often say that you should just be yourself, and not adhere to social norms to keep for the benefit of others. However I've found that just being myself entails very little or no interaction with other people. It's not that I dislike other people, I just have no need to be with them. This leaves me with a problem though: although I'm happy to be alone now, in the future I don't know if I will become more sociable. But by that time all my friends would have left. I would be a creepy loner. Once you have no social circle at all, particularly as you get older, it become much harder to make new acquaintances. One of the main reasons I continue to put time into my current friendships is so that I keep a foot in the door, as it were, to a social circle.
What I worry about most is being happily alone now, but then growing older to find than I have no support network. By then it might be too late to build up friendships.
I realise this is a website aimed at loneliness, but does anyone else find that they can happily spend long periods of time with no human contact (other than the cashier at the shop) and have no feelings of loneliness, or any desire for human company?
The maximum time I've spent without any human contact has only been a few weeks at a time, but I've found that after those few weeks I would actually have preferred to continue in solitude rather than have to deal with people.
Has any one tried living completely alone for months/years? Where you happy at the beginning, but then as time wore on began to miss people? Or did you just sort of separate off from the real world, and live happily in a bubble?
tl;dr I prefer to spend time alone than with people, but only very rarely get lonely. Am contemplating a life as a sort of hermit, not seeking out social interaction, not having friends etc. and being happy. Any thoughts?
