Does anyone else here find making eye contact to be a problem? I have Aspergers and find it very, very hard to look people in the eye unless I know them very well. I know that some people find this odd, and this makes me feel even less like making eye contact.
If I go on a train I have to take a book or newspaper with me to read so that I don't have to look at whoever is sitting opposite me. One of my friends remarked that I don't look at people and generally she isn't highly observent (this is not a put down:she has health issues and is less likely to notice what goes on around her as she feels so frail.)
I did a short speech at the French group I go to some weeks ago and I was able to do it as I had written it down (everyone who does a speech writes it down and reads from their notes) and so I just had to read my notes but, unlike all the others who have had a go at doing a short speech, I didn't look up once as I spoke as I would have collapsed into a heap of nerves if I had met someone's eye.
It did show me, though, that I can cope best when I don't have to look at people.
If I go on a train I have to take a book or newspaper with me to read so that I don't have to look at whoever is sitting opposite me. One of my friends remarked that I don't look at people and generally she isn't highly observent (this is not a put down:she has health issues and is less likely to notice what goes on around her as she feels so frail.)
I did a short speech at the French group I go to some weeks ago and I was able to do it as I had written it down (everyone who does a speech writes it down and reads from their notes) and so I just had to read my notes but, unlike all the others who have had a go at doing a short speech, I didn't look up once as I spoke as I would have collapsed into a heap of nerves if I had met someone's eye.
It did show me, though, that I can cope best when I don't have to look at people.