So much of this board focuses on love relationships. What about when you have family making you feel like garbage? My son's wife hates me, and I have no idea why, so I'm estranged from my grandson, although not from my son. I can explain more, but first I want to see if there is any interest in discussiong how lonely you can feel when your own family cuts you off. I'm feeling lonely today. It's my birthday and my immediate family loves me (hub, two kids who live with me and my one daughter who lives away from home). However, I have had MUCH rejection. My mother disowned me before she died for reasons nobody really understands and that she never explained. My sister and I have had constant problems. She blames me for many things, but she was close to Mom. When she gets upset with me, even in a normal way, she calls the police. I'm afraid of her so I don't speak to her anymore. The police don't take her complaints seriously, but I don't like them coming around anyway. It scares me, hub and kids. My brother lives far away and is distant. My Dad and I do have a relationship. I dread the day he won't be with us anymore. He is 85. I have two grown sons. One was adopted from another country at age six and never attached to us enough, I guess. Again for reasons I don't know, he won't see any of us anymore. He is married now and I hope he is happy. My other son is the one with the hostile wife. I know why she is upset, but it truly is a puzzling reason.
If I understood why I was rejected so often, maybe I wouldn't be so lonely, but I never really get satisfactory answers. And maybe I'd feel lonely anyway. I think some people just do. I'm 56. I adopted four kids and gave birth to one. I wanted a big family because I felt so lost in my own. Well, only three of my kids give love back to me.
Thoughts?
If I understood why I was rejected so often, maybe I wouldn't be so lonely, but I never really get satisfactory answers. And maybe I'd feel lonely anyway. I think some people just do. I'm 56. I adopted four kids and gave birth to one. I wanted a big family because I felt so lost in my own. Well, only three of my kids give love back to me.
Thoughts?