nguyenmtony
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Hey everyone, my name is Anthony and I just joined this forum not too long ago. I just lost my girlfriend/fiance of 7 and a half years. I'm 27 now and i met her when i was 19. during the beginning of our relationship it was great we both could not get enough of eachother when we werent together physically we were on the phone with eachother. her mom hated it. Her mom is the jealous type of person that if she sees anyone that has something better than her than she will mess it up any way possible. her mom will always talk in her ear saying she will never be nothing and that i was worthless. after the first year of being together her mom kicked her out. I took care of her when her mom didn't want to do anything with her. after 2 years I got her pregnant. I found out while i was at work by her parents calling my parents(i work for my family's business and also she was still close to her father) I was scared this was when i just turned 21 and didn't know what to do but i said okay. but her mom had a different agenda she was talking crap about me and her and said my daughter isn't going to have a baby with big ears (i have ears that kind of stick out). So her mom forced her to get an abortion and she blamed it on us telling my parents that i didn't want the kid. after that ordeal we still was together and during the next year her mom got close to her again and was putting stuff in her ear saying that i was cheating on her and blah blah blah. so being easily influenced by her mom after that whole year past by she started to cheat on me :*(. it really hurt because i was engaged to her by that time. well to make that story short i found out and he was beating the hell out of her and blamed it on me while i never laid a single hand on her that way. after her begging me for awhile i took her back because she was my heart and we've been thru it all together already. everything was good after that but i always had it in the back of my mind she cheated so i would be verbally tormenting towards her when we would get in arguments. We always would make up and had makeup sex all the time so i thought she forgive me.(i found out just recently she didn't forgive me)during out relationship i spent around $150k on her as she did me(more around $30k on her end) bought her 3 engagement rings during our relationship(around $15k)everything was great for another 2 years we went saw eachother everyday went out almost every weekend and then my parents got tired of me going out and coming home so late so my dad kicked me out(we are an asian family and they keep us until we get married)so she took me in by that time she was living at her own house for about a 4 years(the first 3 years her grandma and cousins lived there also)everything was good except i couldn't find steady good income. she took care of me for about a year but i did whatever i could to make money. after a year my parents called me back to work so i went back to work then i wrecked my car a year later. by that time her mom started to show back around because her husband(my ex's dad) got arrested because he entered a blind plea for trafficking and got 20 years while the real drug dealer was her mom and she got probation.. so he took the rep for everything so she can be free(her mom is cheating on her husband as of this moment still with his money)her mom was talking in her ear the whole time im worthless because i have no car and blah blah and i would rely on my ex girlfriend to bring me to work it lasted awhile but her mom started wanting to go out so my ex girl listened and went out with her. so she wouldnt come home and didnt bring me to work and whatever so i can save up for another car.(this was after i spent every dime and we shot my credit). about 7 months ago my gf's car broke down and i coudlnt help her because she didn't bring me to work while she could have so she moved back to her moms house so her mom can bring her to work. her mom for about a week did bring her to work and then after that her mom wouldnt some days so it was hard on her. so after a few months of not seeing her and me calling her and she not answering i went walking to find her. that day i found her and she was pushing me away and i couldn't understand it because she would text me and call me sometimes telling me she loves me and just wait for her because shes trying to get her car fixed and she will come home to me. well that never happened she got her car fixed and then her mom wouldnt let her move back home with me. so my parents needed my help at work so they called and came to get me. I thought we were fine at that time because we started to see eachother everyday again and had dates i took her out and she took me out. after that fiasco about last december i resigned a 2 year contract with tmobile so we can upgrade our phones(i bought us both mytouch 4gs) because i thought everything was going great and she told me she wanted to marry me. we were seeing eachother on a regular basis and around my birthday (january 6th) her mom kicked her out again(for sticking up for me because her mom called me a piece of sh*t) and instead of calling me because we were going thru arguements she called her friends(and the guy she cheated on me with they started out as friends or she said)the guy pursued her even when she told him she had a boyfriend and she was happy. and ofcourse her mom had no problem with this guy because he's 21 and doesn't work doesn't have anything going for him. so i feel betrayed feel hurt my pride was striped from me and i'm still in love with her. i didn't talk to her for a month and a half didnt see her or anything(during the first month i was still in shock i was able to function but after that i didnt eat or sleep really for 2 weeks lost 20 lbs in 2 weeks.)so i went to see her at her workplace(she works at the mall thats where she met that guy)and when she saw me she told me she had butterflies in her stomach and she started to cry telling me she finally realize after she lost me shes in love with me still ,realized how much i did for her and regrets cheating on me and shes miserable and that he's cheating on her now. she also said that shes still my girl and still calls me her superman(inside thing between us, shes my kryptonite and im her superman)she tells me she wants me back and what could she do to get me back. i told her its gonna take alot for me to take her back but for starters she cant cheat on me anymore and she has to get away from her mom and that guy, his family and friends. she was like okay i'll do that. that was last monday mar.13,2011. for a few days after that she was instant messaging me calling me and all up until last thursday mar.17, 2011 and that thursday her mom showed up to her workplace and started to cause problems again. well that night we spent some time together she held and kissed me like she used to lookign in my eyes telling me she loves me and went down on me. that thursday i gave her a phone so she can call me more easily. but since then she turned off the phone i gave her and hasn't called or try to get ahold of me at all(yet she told me she was gonna try to come see me) so my heart is crushed and wished i would have listened to her about getting our apartment and telling her i love her more often.