Can someone help me clear this up?
I'm not excited about going on first dates, nor meeting new friends, though people in general seem to like those kinds of things. I'm confident that I'm able to handle a situation like that well enough, I think, and that it'll probably be fun.
But I keep delaying or secretly hoping that the other person forgets about our appointment – I don't put in any effort to make it happen.
If it's with a friend I've known for long then it's good, but I get these feelings with people I don't know too well, maybe it is that I can't feel like being myself?
I guess it's anxiousness; it feels a bit like I want to cry. Maybe a slight "fight or flight".
I have four theories:
1) it's the edge of my comfort zone
2) I don't find the person interesting enough (how do I know, I haven't met him/her!)
3) I'm simply just not interested in meeting people (then what should I do about my lacking social life...)
4) I'm lazy
I need to expand my social circle, but to make that happen I have to meet new people...
Edit, this can vary from moment to moment. If I'm already in a social situation, the probability is much higher that I will try to meet someone.
I'm not excited about going on first dates, nor meeting new friends, though people in general seem to like those kinds of things. I'm confident that I'm able to handle a situation like that well enough, I think, and that it'll probably be fun.
But I keep delaying or secretly hoping that the other person forgets about our appointment – I don't put in any effort to make it happen.
If it's with a friend I've known for long then it's good, but I get these feelings with people I don't know too well, maybe it is that I can't feel like being myself?
I guess it's anxiousness; it feels a bit like I want to cry. Maybe a slight "fight or flight".
I have four theories:
1) it's the edge of my comfort zone
2) I don't find the person interesting enough (how do I know, I haven't met him/her!)
3) I'm simply just not interested in meeting people (then what should I do about my lacking social life...)
4) I'm lazy
I need to expand my social circle, but to make that happen I have to meet new people...
Edit, this can vary from moment to moment. If I'm already in a social situation, the probability is much higher that I will try to meet someone.