So, here's the thing:
I have a childhood/teenage 'friend' as well as about 4 current 'friends' I've met over the past few years. I say 'friends' because I really don't enjoy their company much. And, I feel somewhat self-contious around them. The reason for this is that I have nothing in common with them. They're very materialistic and all about image. Conversations with them are always on the surface and never deep. They are generally good people, considerate and other stuff but I just don't think they're good for me.
For the longest time I consider myself friendless. I don't consider them as my friends. Recently, they haven't been making an effort to call to check up on me, like they always did, and I feel relieved. I've been happy without them, but sad too. I don't know if i'm making sense here. I'm sad because it's nice to get calls and have people to chat to, even if it's 'on the surface' chats. But, at the same time, it's not what I want.
I want to be friends with someone I can tell that I have joined ALL, I can't tell them that, for a reason i'm not sure of.
I need friends, I really do, just not them. I don't want to keep them just so that I have people to chat to because anyway, i'd be chatting about things that don't even matter to me.
So i've finally decided I want to oficially be friendless but I don't know if I should do it formally over a cup of coffee and tell them individually that I don't want to be friends with them anymore. Do I tell them the real reasons?
Or, do I just be silent and give them time to get my idea. The latter, though, is how i've lost all of my most treasured friendships. It hurts to lose a friend and not know why it happened. Is it you, are you just growing old and apart, did they not like you?
But, on the other hand, how do I tell someone i've known for 5+ years and some 7+ years that you don't appreciate their presence anymore?
Has anyone been through something like this?
I have a childhood/teenage 'friend' as well as about 4 current 'friends' I've met over the past few years. I say 'friends' because I really don't enjoy their company much. And, I feel somewhat self-contious around them. The reason for this is that I have nothing in common with them. They're very materialistic and all about image. Conversations with them are always on the surface and never deep. They are generally good people, considerate and other stuff but I just don't think they're good for me.
For the longest time I consider myself friendless. I don't consider them as my friends. Recently, they haven't been making an effort to call to check up on me, like they always did, and I feel relieved. I've been happy without them, but sad too. I don't know if i'm making sense here. I'm sad because it's nice to get calls and have people to chat to, even if it's 'on the surface' chats. But, at the same time, it's not what I want.
I want to be friends with someone I can tell that I have joined ALL, I can't tell them that, for a reason i'm not sure of.
I need friends, I really do, just not them. I don't want to keep them just so that I have people to chat to because anyway, i'd be chatting about things that don't even matter to me.
So i've finally decided I want to oficially be friendless but I don't know if I should do it formally over a cup of coffee and tell them individually that I don't want to be friends with them anymore. Do I tell them the real reasons?
Or, do I just be silent and give them time to get my idea. The latter, though, is how i've lost all of my most treasured friendships. It hurts to lose a friend and not know why it happened. Is it you, are you just growing old and apart, did they not like you?
But, on the other hand, how do I tell someone i've known for 5+ years and some 7+ years that you don't appreciate their presence anymore?
Has anyone been through something like this?