h3donist
Well-known member
Hi all
I was in the Google Play store and noticed that there were a lot of Apps dedicated to finding new friends. The basic premise is that you install the App, specify the sort of people you want to meet, then it uses location finding services to find others in the same boat, giving you an opportunity to communicate with them. I was looking for a way of meeting people that wasn't Online Dating or those Casual Hookup sort of things so thought I'd give one a go.
So I did a bit of research and the one with the consistent positives review was one called "Skout" so I installed it, created a profile and the least hideous photo of myself and clicked find. A page full of people (mostly pouting girls, overweight men and 40-something women stood behind a spotty child) appeared. Suddenly I received a message "someone's checked you out! Click here to find out who!" so I tapped the screen and....
...I received a demand for payment.
It slowly dawned on me that these "in app purchases" companies are preying on the loneliness of others. Their target audience are people so desperate for someone to reach out to them, so by dangling the carrot of "a person wants to be your friend, but we will tell you who right after you send us some money." The message may even be bogus - an automated message using a stock photo of a woman to encourage me to spend more on trying to communicate with her.
With subscription based sites like Match is that you pay up front then there's nothing left to do except pay for your membership - I'm happy with that, or a complete free site supported by advertising revenue - that's fine too. But the "freemium" model of pricing, to actively try to lure lonely people into paying for human interaction is, in my opinion, insidious and cruel.
I have found meetup.com though which seems a lot better way of finding people with similar interests without trying to rinse me for cash.
I was in the Google Play store and noticed that there were a lot of Apps dedicated to finding new friends. The basic premise is that you install the App, specify the sort of people you want to meet, then it uses location finding services to find others in the same boat, giving you an opportunity to communicate with them. I was looking for a way of meeting people that wasn't Online Dating or those Casual Hookup sort of things so thought I'd give one a go.
So I did a bit of research and the one with the consistent positives review was one called "Skout" so I installed it, created a profile and the least hideous photo of myself and clicked find. A page full of people (mostly pouting girls, overweight men and 40-something women stood behind a spotty child) appeared. Suddenly I received a message "someone's checked you out! Click here to find out who!" so I tapped the screen and....
...I received a demand for payment.
It slowly dawned on me that these "in app purchases" companies are preying on the loneliness of others. Their target audience are people so desperate for someone to reach out to them, so by dangling the carrot of "a person wants to be your friend, but we will tell you who right after you send us some money." The message may even be bogus - an automated message using a stock photo of a woman to encourage me to spend more on trying to communicate with her.
With subscription based sites like Match is that you pay up front then there's nothing left to do except pay for your membership - I'm happy with that, or a complete free site supported by advertising revenue - that's fine too. But the "freemium" model of pricing, to actively try to lure lonely people into paying for human interaction is, in my opinion, insidious and cruel.
I have found meetup.com though which seems a lot better way of finding people with similar interests without trying to rinse me for cash.