So, recently I've graduated college and moved back to my home in the town where I attended highschool. Its a very small town and running into ex-classmates is a dreaded norm. Recently, through a facebook message, a former crush of mine contacted me out of the blue. This is someone who admittedly I've thought of here and there over the years but definitely my feelings for him went away. Basically towards the end of my senior year of highschool, I met him through friends and I formed a crush on him. We were never boyfriend-girlfriend but he talked to me when no one was around and snuck kisses here and there. This lasted no more then a month or two (I think) before he suddenly stopped talking to me. I went up to him one day and he walked right past me. He ignored me until we graduated. It was a humiliating experience for me because I felt taken advantage of for the first time by a guy who clearly wanted nothing more from me then my body. I wasn't an attractive girl at all (and not much has changed now), so looking back I realize more and more why this happened and I accept that.
Maybe 6 months to a year after graduating he contacted me through myspace said something like "I want to apologize, that wasn't me back then." I don't remember the message in detail but I know he wasn't looking to talk to me or date me, it was just an apology. At that point I truly had no interest in him or intent on talking to him, and still remembered how he made me feel so I sent him a message along the lines of "I know you never really liked me and just wanted to ____ and you should take responsibility for who you were. I hope you get everything you deserve in life, nothing more and nothing less. good luck" I blocked him from being able to contact me and I hadn't seen or heard from him since. I do remember the original message was much longer and angrier but definitely made the point that I wanted nothing to do with him.
This brings me to present day. I got a message from him on facebook simply saying "hi" on the night of my graduation. I was very surprised. Being that I'm a completely different person then I was 5 or even 4 years ago, I really have no problem talking to someone who wants to talk to me. Plus, I have a real curiosity when someone from the past contacts me. I said "hi" back and asked him how he was doing. He said, he didn't think I'd reply because we didn't end on good terms. I stated that I don't hold grudges and we've been making small talk since. Neither of us have brought up the events of highschool. I eventually asked him what led him to contact me. He said: "I like you, wanted to see you again or just talk to you. You where a really cool person and I wanted to know if we could be is that cool with you". Now I am guy-stupid and pretty oblivious so I did ask what "could be " meant because I didn't understand what the smiley face implied. He said "be cool" and that "their was supposed to be a period there". My friends call BS and say he meant "if we could be... more then friends, lovers, etc etc". I would agree with them. It just seems he backed down when I asked. As I said, I have no problem talking to him on a friendly basis but the fact that he is saying "he likes me, wants to see me or talk, and thinks I'm a cool person" and has been clearly flirting with me in other exchanges is thoroughly confusing to me!
His actions in highschool say the complete opposite of what he is saying now. He never liked me or wanted to talk to me back then. From what I remember, he just wanted to try to get the goods and when he couldn't he moved on. That was it. My suspicion is that he saw my graduation pics that were posted of me by of mine who is friends with him on Facebook, and maybe he thinks I look good now (admittedly, I looked **** good at my graduation...surprised myself) and wants to try to ...you know...being that I'm back in town and just graduated. He can't possibly think I buy that he wants some sort of sincere relationship with me, right? I just cant think of what changed in the 5 years since highschool to make him suddenly "like me." He also had plently of time prior to now to message me, so why is this happening so suddenly for any other reason?. He tells me to contact him when I want, but I wait for him to first because I don't want to give him the wrong impression and I'm still trying to get a feel for what his motives are. The next time we talk I plan to ask him what in the last 5 years has caused him to be interested in me. So do you guys think that he could be genuinely interested in me this time, or that he's just looking to take the clothes off of a girl he knows used to be interested in him (he's recently moved back here too FYI)? What do you make of blast from the past relationships in general?
Maybe 6 months to a year after graduating he contacted me through myspace said something like "I want to apologize, that wasn't me back then." I don't remember the message in detail but I know he wasn't looking to talk to me or date me, it was just an apology. At that point I truly had no interest in him or intent on talking to him, and still remembered how he made me feel so I sent him a message along the lines of "I know you never really liked me and just wanted to ____ and you should take responsibility for who you were. I hope you get everything you deserve in life, nothing more and nothing less. good luck" I blocked him from being able to contact me and I hadn't seen or heard from him since. I do remember the original message was much longer and angrier but definitely made the point that I wanted nothing to do with him.
This brings me to present day. I got a message from him on facebook simply saying "hi" on the night of my graduation. I was very surprised. Being that I'm a completely different person then I was 5 or even 4 years ago, I really have no problem talking to someone who wants to talk to me. Plus, I have a real curiosity when someone from the past contacts me. I said "hi" back and asked him how he was doing. He said, he didn't think I'd reply because we didn't end on good terms. I stated that I don't hold grudges and we've been making small talk since. Neither of us have brought up the events of highschool. I eventually asked him what led him to contact me. He said: "I like you, wanted to see you again or just talk to you. You where a really cool person and I wanted to know if we could be is that cool with you". Now I am guy-stupid and pretty oblivious so I did ask what "could be " meant because I didn't understand what the smiley face implied. He said "be cool" and that "their was supposed to be a period there". My friends call BS and say he meant "if we could be... more then friends, lovers, etc etc". I would agree with them. It just seems he backed down when I asked. As I said, I have no problem talking to him on a friendly basis but the fact that he is saying "he likes me, wants to see me or talk, and thinks I'm a cool person" and has been clearly flirting with me in other exchanges is thoroughly confusing to me!
His actions in highschool say the complete opposite of what he is saying now. He never liked me or wanted to talk to me back then. From what I remember, he just wanted to try to get the goods and when he couldn't he moved on. That was it. My suspicion is that he saw my graduation pics that were posted of me by of mine who is friends with him on Facebook, and maybe he thinks I look good now (admittedly, I looked **** good at my graduation...surprised myself) and wants to try to ...you know...being that I'm back in town and just graduated. He can't possibly think I buy that he wants some sort of sincere relationship with me, right? I just cant think of what changed in the 5 years since highschool to make him suddenly "like me." He also had plently of time prior to now to message me, so why is this happening so suddenly for any other reason?. He tells me to contact him when I want, but I wait for him to first because I don't want to give him the wrong impression and I'm still trying to get a feel for what his motives are. The next time we talk I plan to ask him what in the last 5 years has caused him to be interested in me. So do you guys think that he could be genuinely interested in me this time, or that he's just looking to take the clothes off of a girl he knows used to be interested in him (he's recently moved back here too FYI)? What do you make of blast from the past relationships in general?