Drew
Well-known member
Hello everyone,
I'm Drew, 45, married w/ 4 kids (oldest lives with his birth mom.) You would think married life would make you happy, but no. I was raised in an affectionate home and I am affectionate as well; however, my wife is not. Not in the least. We have talked about it many times, we have been to counseling, seminars (Laugh Yourself to a Better Marriage), read books (5 Love Languages), none of it matters. I've read quite a few post and I know some of you have gone years without affection. For me, when I was home, the longest was 3 weeks and it was a short, 30 seconds maybe, rub of my knee. There are many times when we have been in bed and I see her petting her cat and I wish she would show me the same amount of affection she does to the cat. It has never been about sex. Sex is not affection. At least not to me. I would try to tell her how I feel and she would always interrupt and talk about herself and what she was going through.
I moved out in January to my own place, but moved back home in May due to financial reasons. Currently I am deployed (in the middle east, but it's a safe spot) and will be back home in late January/early February.
I tried "Russian" marriage sites. I made a trip to the Ukraine to find a new wife (Russian marriage websites... wasted thousands of dollars.) I actually loved the country and the food, but the rest was a waste of money, time and effort. I did a lot of research prior to jumping into the sites, but it was a lot harder than I thought.
For most of my life I have been invisible. People don't remember me. They don't think about me or consider me.
Oh and I like to write. My cousin once told me I write "novels" for emails. I am an open book. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask.
Thank you for your time and I hope you have a great day!
I'm Drew, 45, married w/ 4 kids (oldest lives with his birth mom.) You would think married life would make you happy, but no. I was raised in an affectionate home and I am affectionate as well; however, my wife is not. Not in the least. We have talked about it many times, we have been to counseling, seminars (Laugh Yourself to a Better Marriage), read books (5 Love Languages), none of it matters. I've read quite a few post and I know some of you have gone years without affection. For me, when I was home, the longest was 3 weeks and it was a short, 30 seconds maybe, rub of my knee. There are many times when we have been in bed and I see her petting her cat and I wish she would show me the same amount of affection she does to the cat. It has never been about sex. Sex is not affection. At least not to me. I would try to tell her how I feel and she would always interrupt and talk about herself and what she was going through.
I moved out in January to my own place, but moved back home in May due to financial reasons. Currently I am deployed (in the middle east, but it's a safe spot) and will be back home in late January/early February.
I tried "Russian" marriage sites. I made a trip to the Ukraine to find a new wife (Russian marriage websites... wasted thousands of dollars.) I actually loved the country and the food, but the rest was a waste of money, time and effort. I did a lot of research prior to jumping into the sites, but it was a lot harder than I thought.
For most of my life I have been invisible. People don't remember me. They don't think about me or consider me.
Oh and I like to write. My cousin once told me I write "novels" for emails. I am an open book. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask.
Thank you for your time and I hope you have a great day!