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That feeling where you're just so **** lonely and you crave someone to talk to about any subject... this is me, all the time. Especially today. Sundays always seem to be the loneliest day for me..

Sometimes I get so desperate that I go into chat rooms to try to find someone, but usually it's all creeps that want to cam2cam with you. Why can't I have a normal conversation? And whenever I make the move and reach out to another person (I hardly do this) I always feel like I'm bothering them and that they're not interested in having a conversation with me. I hardly ever try anymore because of this reason. It's always like, ugh never-*******-mind.

I don't have friends in real life, fine okay, but why can't I make friendships over the internet? Am I that lame and boring? Am I that much of a ******* loser? I miss the days when I'd get excited to get online because there was always someone to talk to on there. What I'm trying to say is is that I'm one extremely lonely person and it sucks so much.

I'm not even sure what this post is. I guess a rant of some sorts. Does any of this even make sense? *sigh* I just needed to get this honeysuckle off my chest.

Carry on everybody.
 
At least you try to connect to someone when you want to talk. That's good. Unlike me, I usually pretend I'm talking to someone in my head. It kinda helps, but in reality it's more like talking to a wall :p
 
There are 13 people in main chat right now, and they won't try to cam with you.
 
I know exactly how it feels, and it's horrible. I have been through a few phases where I almost learnt to accept it, or at least deal with it, but it's only temporary, that shitty feeling always comes back eventually.

omegle/chatroulette etc, they're all scummy places for scummy people, or good for trolling, if you're so inclined. On forums you will find more decent people, but watch out, the scummy ones are on those too.

I would say to you that you can always PM me here or ask me something directly in the public boards if you'd prefer, but it sounds like you don't have much self-worth to do that. The offer is always there if you wanted to but perhaps, if you can't, then I will message you first. I could do with the practice tbh as I am honeysuckle at making friends, usually, and suffer from the same thoughts about myself as you do. I know what it's like to feel boring. I have slowly watched myself deteriorate into a hermit recluse as my hobbies drifted away from me and I found it increasingly difficult to relate to people. I don't know though, people are annoying idiots, lol. It's probably for the best :p

Not sure if it's a brilliant or a terrible idea, but have you ever tried playing an mmo like WoW or Guild Wars, or something? I've made some cool e-buddies from those, people I would consider very real friends, and more.
 
Psycho Love said:
That feeling where you're just so **** lonely and you crave someone to talk to about any subject... this is me, all the time. Especially today. Sundays always seem to be the loneliest day for me..

Sometimes I get so desperate that I go into chat rooms to try to find someone, but usually it's all creeps that want to cam2cam with you. Why can't I have a normal conversation? And whenever I make the move and reach out to another person (I hardly do this) I always feel like I'm bothering them and that they're not interested in having a conversation with me. I hardly ever try anymore because of this reason. It's always like, ugh never-*******-mind.

I don't have friends in real life, fine okay, but why can't I make friendships over the internet? Am I that lame and boring? Am I that much of a ******* loser? I miss the days when I'd get excited to get online because there was always someone to talk to on there. What I'm trying to say is is that I'm one extremely lonely person and it sucks so much.

I'm not even sure what this post is. I guess a rant of some sorts. Does any of this even make sense? *sigh* I just needed to get this honeysuckle off my chest.

Carry on everybody.

Are you me? Really, I have the same problem with worrying I'm only bothering other people with my presence. Though at least I don't need to worry about being asked to cam. I can only imagine how old that much get. Blech.

If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to PM me. You don't have to worry about being a bother to me. Hell, I'd probably welcome someone wanting to talk to me, even if it's on such a topic! I hope you can cheer up and maybe make some friends. Good luck with that.
 
The people in the chatroom won't try to cam but they WILL try to sex you up. (Hello)
 
Wailun said:
Unlike me, I usually pretend I'm talking to someone in my head. It kinda helps, but in reality it's more like talking to a wall :p

Why not give me a PM sometime instead of feeling like you're talking to a wall? I don't mind! And I'll reply too ;P

SophiaGrace said:
The people in the chatroom won't try to cam but they WILL try to sex you up. (Hello)

Haha! My, my...

el Jay said:
Are you me? Really, I have the same problem with worrying I'm only bothering other people with my presence. Though at least I don't need to worry about being asked to cam. I can only imagine how old that much get. Blech.

If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to PM me. You don't have to worry about being a bother to me. Hell, I'd probably welcome someone wanting to talk to me, even if it's on such a topic! I hope you can cheer up and maybe make some friends. Good luck with that.

It makes me feel loads better that there are some people who feel the same way. It makes me feel less alone and less of a loser. And you can PM me whenever you'd like as well, my inbox is always open. :)
 
The last time I went on omegele some guy complained about his girlfriend for about 20 minutes and logged off.
That was the best "conversation" I ever had there. And he was the only guy (that I know of) that talked to me despite the fact that I'm a guy.
So I've never been big on chat rooms...
 
The last time I went on there I pretended I was a girl and got some poor boy all worked up talking about my ass and titties then informed him I was a guy as he was... doing his thing. I felt stupid about it it was quite a silly thing to do but hey that's what you get when you spend all night looking to use someone - you get used. I think he saw the funny side eventually.
 
Psycho Love said:
That feeling where you're just so **** lonely and you crave someone to talk to about any subject... this is me, all the time. Especially today. Sundays always seem to be the loneliest day for me..

Sometimes I get so desperate that I go into chat rooms to try to find someone, but usually it's all creeps that want to cam2cam with you. Why can't I have a normal conversation? And whenever I make the move and reach out to another person (I hardly do this) I always feel like I'm bothering them and that they're not interested in having a conversation with me. I hardly ever try anymore because of this reason. It's always like, ugh never-*******-mind.

I don't have friends in real life, fine okay, but why can't I make friendships over the internet? Am I that lame and boring? Am I that much of a ******* loser? I miss the days when I'd get excited to get online because there was always someone to talk to on there. What I'm trying to say is is that I'm one extremely lonely person and it sucks so much.

I'm not even sure what this post is. I guess a rant of some sorts. Does any of this even make sense? *sigh* I just needed to get this honeysuckle off my chest.

Carry on everybody.

can i talk with you? :) i won't ask for cam2cam (because i'm shy anyway) but yeah i feel the same way as you do. i really want to make friends but unfortunately i don't have any. so i desperately look on the internet for some. but i feel that no one really wants to be my friend.
 
painter said:
The last time I went on there I pretended I was a girl and got some poor boy all worked up talking about my ass and titties then informed him I was a guy as he was... doing his thing.

HAHAHA! That's great :D

Misanthrope23 said:
can i talk with you? :) i won't ask for cam2cam (because i'm shy anyway) but yeah i feel the same way as you do. i really want to make friends but unfortunately i don't have any. so i desperately look on the internet for some. but i feel that no one really wants to be my friend.

Yes of course you can talk with me! :D And don't feel that way because I want to be your friend, Misanthrope. :)
 
Sometimes I get so desperate that I go into chat rooms to try to find someone, but usually it's all creeps that want to cam2cam with you. Why can't I have a normal conversation?

Most people that go into websites designed for chatting are just trying to get some virtual action, I wouldn't bother with them (apart from this forum of course!), but that's hardly your fault so I wouldn't blame yourself.

You can chat with anyone on here, I'm sure most will be up for some chat or another. Don't be afraid to send a PM.
 
I think I have a strong idea of what you're talking about when you say you feel like nobody really wants to hear what you have to say, but you're screaming for someone to tell it to. It's like social pressure and emotional pressure clashing. To me at least.
 
Insomnian said:
I think I have a strong idea of what you're talking about when you say you feel like nobody really wants to hear what you have to say, but you're screaming for someone to tell it to. It's like social pressure and emotional pressure clashing. To me at least.

but a chimpanzee doesn't have the strength of ten men :0
 
Misanthrope23 said:
Insomnian said:
I think I have a strong idea of what you're talking about when you say you feel like nobody really wants to hear what you have to say, but you're screaming for someone to tell it to. It's like social pressure and emotional pressure clashing. To me at least.

but a chimpanzee doesn't have the strength of ten men :0

You have a point. Why would it put THAT much effort to maul my face when it could do that with so much less xD
 
This is probably not the best advice, but a good way to make online friends is by playing online games like World of Warcraft. Again, potentially bad advice because it can be very addictive (if it's even the sort of thing you would enjoy.) But people do form pretty strong friendships in those games because they're spending time together, doing stuff together, in a sense -- more than just chatting.

It certainly beats hitting up a stranger in chat roulette and praying he doesn't whip it out.
 
Insomnian said:
Misanthrope23 said:
Insomnian said:
I think I have a strong idea of what you're talking about when you say you feel like nobody really wants to hear what you have to say, but you're screaming for someone to tell it to. It's like social pressure and emotional pressure clashing. To me at least.

but a chimpanzee doesn't have the strength of ten men :0

You have a point. Why would it put THAT much effort to maul my face when it could do that with so much less xD

:O
 
New Eyes said:
This is probably not the best advice, but a good way to make online friends is by playing online games like World of Warcraft. Again, potentially bad advice because it can be very addictive (if it's even the sort of thing you would enjoy.) But people do form pretty strong friendships in those games because they're spending time together, doing stuff together, in a sense -- more than just chatting.

It certainly beats hitting up a stranger in chat roulette and praying he doesn't whip it out.

I'm in two minds about this. On the one hand, I've made some really great friends in mmo's. True friends, that I feel closer to than people I have known for 20+ years. I'd even go so far as to call them 'soulmates' depending on your definition of the word.

On the other hand, I've met some of the most disgustingly two-faced, back-stabbing ******** I've ever seen there. They can be really toxic environments, some of the worst communities on the internet. I guess that can make finding someone decent in the sea of honeysuckle a lot more rewarding, but I'd only advise someone looking for friends in an mmo to approach with extreme caution.
 
painter said:
New Eyes said:
This is probably not the best advice, but a good way to make online friends is by playing online games like World of Warcraft. Again, potentially bad advice because it can be very addictive (if it's even the sort of thing you would enjoy.) But people do form pretty strong friendships in those games because they're spending time together, doing stuff together, in a sense -- more than just chatting.

It certainly beats hitting up a stranger in chat roulette and praying he doesn't whip it out.

I'm in two minds about this. On the one hand, I've made some really great friends in mmo's. True friends, that I feel closer to than people I have known for 20+ years. I'd even go so far as to call them 'soulmates' depending on your definition of the word.

On the other hand, I've met some of the most disgustingly two-faced, back-stabbing ******** I've ever seen there. They can be really toxic environments, some of the worst communities on the internet. I guess that can make finding someone decent in the sea of honeysuckle a lot more rewarding, but I'd only advise someone looking for friends in an mmo to approach with extreme caution.

Oddly enough, some of the best friends I've ever met are on Xbox Live, while boosting online achievements for various games. Sure, there's plenty of immature, racist, sexist ********, and the usual range of undesirable people (just like in real life), but I've been able to find people on occasion that are just genuinely nice and cool people.

The beauty of online gaming, I've found, is that for the most part, you're free to take the good and just discard the bad. Just don't let all of that "bad" out there sour you on it. Just ignore it wholesale, because once you turn off the game, they don't exist.

Getting involved in clans or guilds can invite unwanted drama, though, because it ties you to a much more static group of people that you can't just discard if drama erupts, and friends made in that clan/guild will be tied to it as well, at least within that particular game.

Obviously, boosting achievements isn't exactly for everyone, so I'm not recommending that specifically. Just mentioning that it IS possible to find good people and friends through online gaming, even a place like Xbox Live, with all of its notoriety.
 
I feel like that a lot too sometimes, i'm not a socialising person anymore so i don't have any real friends and hardly any online ones. If you ever feel like talking then i'd be happy to :)
 

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